Discourse on Stronger And Longer Relationships

“Relationships last longer when nobody knows your business.”

Seeker: I did not understand the quote. Please explain to me.

Maladkar: Relationships when based on wants is a business, where give and take matters the most. When relationships are based more on give than take, then they are longer lasting  as they are now based on zero expectations. In expectations, there are bound to be disappointments. When people know your business, they know how much you are worth, they can then start expectations. But just imagine that they know only you as a person without knowing your background; this relationship is now not based on expectations. You may have observed that our childhood friendships are stronger and longest lasting, as they were built not on caste, creed, financial status, religion, etc. They were based on vibes of the heart and not vibes of the wallet. They were more pure and so were more stronger and more fun. So when relationships are on heart to heart basis without shadow of financial background, they will last longer !  

But one thing I will like to caution you in relationships. One may be in relationships with others as it makes our life easier and more fun. But at the same time do not get involved and too attached in those relationships. They will then start to be a bondage which will smother you slowly. Do as much as you can without getting too attached. As I always like to say, “When in relationships don’t get blind / For then you will never your Self find / It’s not that you have to be unkind / Only don’t get caught up in the grind / For in the end, the journey of life / Begins from you and ends in you.”