The Difference Between Macho and Masculine

If you think of someone who is “Macho”, who do you think of??

Perhaps you think of the Macho man with bulky muscles, form fitting clothing, flashy jewels, and in olden days, a rather large sword. It’s a man that cuts a swath through the crowd because they emit a “stay out of my way” vibe. The first person I think of when I hear the word macho is Gaston from Disney’s “Beauty and the Beast”.?

But is macho really what we are looking for in today’s society, or even what we need??

Let’s look at some famous duos to paint the picture of macho vs masculine. In Marvel’s “Black Panther '' you have the reluctant hero T’Challa, who wields his power selectively. Alternatively, you have the leader of the Mountain Tribe leader M’Baku, whose “go to” is force.?

Whereas T’Challa emits a more masculine energy, M’Baku chooses the more Macho persona.?

Or how about Hulk versus Thor.

“Hulk Smash” is what we’ve come to expect, and although Thor literally has a hammer to smash through any obstacle, he yields his power in a different way. He chooses when to use macho smash techniques and when to use positive influence versus destructive force.?

We’re not saying that Macho is bad. It absolutely has its use cases. When the bad guys outnumber the good guys, sometimes you just need physical power and strength to win the day.?

All we are saying is that it’s “one dimensional”. It ignores the other characteristics that are important to winning the day.?

In terms of the dating world, women may be attracted to macho energy, and while they may like bulging muscles or a “don’t eff with me” attitude for a short fling, what they really crave for long term relationships is masculine energy. Those with masculine energy tend to know they yield power in the situation, and choose to strengthen others instead of putting them down or “in their place”.?

And look, things have changed in the last millennium. Macho men were preferred because they would be the best protector if an opposing army came to town or if rogue outlaws approached the homestead. Who better to yield a sword than the strongest, toughest man in the village??

These days the number of us that are put directly into the battlefield are more rare (unless you count playing Halo). This paves the way for a more evolved, masculine man that has emotional intelligence as well as power and strength.?

At the end of the day, masculine doesn’t defeat macho. It improves it.?

Masculine energy is more of that “rising tide that raises all ships”. It seeks to improve situations, and not tear them down.?

The question now becomes, what sort of power and influence would you like to yield?

In future articles, I will highlight exactly how modern day men can step into their masculine energy, and use that to improve themselves and those around them, while also improving their paychecks and standing in the world.?

We are entering a new world and with that comes a social evolution. If you choose to invest into your way of coping in this new hierarchy, you stand a chance to dominate it with your own special brand of masculine energy.?

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Courtney Alberson is a pioneer in leading Men’s groups to discuss issues and challenges facing modern day men. From overcoming sexual traumas, to living a life unleashed, there is no topic that is off limits. If you have an area of your life where you feel disempowered or unsure why you are hitting roadblocks, then book a session with Courtney to discover how to step into your full power and recreate the life you’ve always imagined. Go to https://calendly.com/sidecarsolutions/20min to book a complimentary session.?