The difference between confidence and arrogance ??
Selena Rezvani (she/her)
Speaker: Leadership & Self-Advocacy | WSJ Bestselling Author of Quick Confidence | TED-Xer | Fast Co Top Career Creator | Thinkers50 Radar Awardee | Rated by Forbes "the premier expert on advocating for yourself at work"
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“Where’s the line between confidence and arrogance?”
This is one of the most common questions I get asked, and understandably so; knowing the distinction can significantly impact how others perceive you, your competence, and your likeability.
Case in point: Earlier in my career I interviewed two candidates for a consultant position. Both were well-qualified, but their approaches to discussing achievements were as different as night and day. Candidate A was all about teamwork and openly acknowledged the hurdles she faced—always refreshing! On the flip side, Candidate B seemed to operate as if “team” was a solo sport, repeatedly using the phrase "single-handedly" like it was his mantra. (Oof! ??)?
The choice was obvious. Candidate A, with her down-to-earth confidence, was a perfect match for our team-focused values. Meanwhile, Candidate B... Let's just say it raised a few red flags about potential team conflicts. This got me thinking about the fine line between confidence and arrogance—a line we all navigate in our careers.
Here are a few tips to help you differentiate between the two to ensure you're projecting confidence, not arrogance.
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5 个月That is right, there is no I but we, in team
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5 个月Arrogance emanates from ego Confidence from consciousness Selena Rezvani (she/her)
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5 个月Great advice. Confidence is very different from arrogance, as it implies the willingness to learn, improve and support others' as well as collaborate and get supported too. Arrogance is thinking one is better than everyone else!
Marketing Manager, RapidSoft Solutions
5 个月This reminded me so much of an article I once read about False Humility. It mentioned how some understood the "appearance" of humility and, in an effort to manipulate others (consciously or unconsciously) would make sure to include certain factors of humility when in fact they are preening and wallowing in self-praise. An example was if someone "complained" about something while shining a huge floodlight on themselves, like "I'm just so exhausted! I'm handling this project and that project; I tried telling my supervisor it was too much, but he/she said there was no one else who could do it better so here I am burning the candle on both ends just so these projects don't sink!" It seems like this poor person is so overworked and they are doing it for the good of everyone but really? Are they the ONLY ones who can carry it out? Did their supervisor really say that? Even if they had, is it the best thing to say to someone, especially if they work there as well? It's arrogance cloaked in humility. It could have been worded "I'm so tired, it's really taking a lot from me to work on these two projects my supervisor asked me to help out with. But you know, I'm enjoying it too. Learning some and testing out new ideas I'm excited about"
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5 个月This post really got me thinking. What if an achievement was truly made singlehandedly? How can we share our solo successes without seeming arrogant? I’d love to hear your thoughts Selena Rezvani (she/her) finding the right balance between self-promotion and humility.