Did You Know You Have Two Voices in Your Head?

Did you know you have two voices in your head?

I didn’t.

For the longest time, I believed the critical voice that put me down or filled me with worst-case scenarios was my only voice. I thought it was helping me: keeping me prepared, pleasing, perfect, and successful. So, I embraced its strategies.

But deep down, I envied those calm, relaxed, happy, and creative people. How did they do it?

While I worked hard, hit deadlines, and made sure everything was perfect, I was also tense, sleep-deprived, in chronic pain—and miserable.

Then, someone told me I have two voices in my head:

- Fear of the ego (the small, separated self), and

- Love of the heart (connected to the all).

What? Sounds a little "woo-woo," right?

I started noticing just how cruel the voice of fear was. It made me self-centered, always worrying about:

- My body: weight, looks, performance,

- My finances: revenue, savings, spending,

- My relationships: Do people like me? Am I getting clients and praise?

But here’s the thing: it was exhausting. I was tense, sleep-deprived, in pain, and miserable—even though some of those external boxes were checked.

The ego’s voice is LOUD. It screams at you 24/7, wakes you up in the night, and pounces as soon as you start to relax. It’s relentless. And while it never fully goes away, you can turn up the volume on the other voice.

The voice of the heart is quieter, always there waiting. It emerges when you slow down, breathe, or take a moment to stare out the window. (Yes, I know—that feels unproductive, but is it?)

When I slowed down, I noticed new things: decisions that didn’t align, problems I was trying too hard to solve, opportunities I hadn’t considered.?

Then, something happened that freaked my ego out. My work and life started to slow down. “Oh my God, we’re going to DIE!” my ego yelled (it’s quite dramatic). But now, there was another voice. A felt-sense that this slowdown was purposeful. It felt like a rewiring—a shift toward gentleness, creativity, and intuition.

I started connecting with others without needing to fix, please, or avoid them. I spent more time with friends and family, and I embraced “good enough” over “perfect.”

Opening up to this voice of the heart is a choice. A choice to become intimate with what’s inside me, and inside you. I’m learning to love myself—my faults, mistakes, pain, and uncomfortable feelings.

Unexpected opportunities have shown up. I’m realizing that life isn’t about winning—it’s about loving myself and others just as we are, without the need to improve everything.

I know, what?! Don’t we ALWAYS need to improve?

From the ego’s point of view, yes. From the heart’s? We’re already enough.

This isn’t the end. It’s just the beginning.

This week take a moment to just pause.? Even though sixty seconds may seem like a lot, it may change the whole tenor of your day.?