Did you change your mental tape?
Nora Paxton
Best-Selling Author |Corporate Executive Coach & Organizational Development Expert | Book Publisher | Transforming Leaders & Organizations
Confidence does not depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.
Can you look in the mirror and say something positive about yourself? If not then you have been playing the wrong mental tape. What if you could change that for something more positive? That's what we call empowering beliefs.
There are many ways to do that , one way I will cover in this post is to reframe your negative questions and thoughts by empowering ones.
For example instead of saying "why should I bother applying for this job?" Say "what skills can I bring to the job that is unique?". Or instead of "why am I so unhappy?" Say "what can I change to create happiness?" Or instead of saying "I am powerless" you can say" "I am capable of generating my success".
Do you get the gist of it?
You can use this technic proactively, in the moment or continuously. Over time you will notice a positive change in how you think about yourself which ultimately will have a positive impact on your self-confidence and self-esteem.
I will close this post by a Brene Brown quote " when we deny our stories they define us; when we own our stories, we get to write the ending".
Thank you and please share your comments.
Nora Paxton
Customer Success Lead, Modern Work, ASEAN, Microsoft
7 年A simple action with profound impact, thanks for the post
Business Development Director & Community Outreach at Credtent | Executive Leadership & Communication | Writer, Editor & Author | Publishing
7 年It's been my experience since I was in my late 20s that the work involved to "reframe" is worth every bit of work it WILL be. As to how long or how quickly one fully integrates the ability to recognize that moment, pause, take a breath, reframe, and feel the benefit of it--that is the question. 21, 30, 60, 90+ days of effort is a good start. Year after year, with compassionate and intentional practice, it becomes the way we operate in all areas of life and work and relating. Good for us and good for those we relate to. Nice post. :)