Developing Loving Speech

Essential Practice #4

Developing a Language of Loving Speech

Words are Powerful

Words can be powerfully healing or profoundly harmful.? The words we speak influence our thoughts and the thoughts we think hugely influence how we feel and the actions we take.? And have you noticed how the same words can be interpreted differently by different people.

What thoughts are going through your mind right now? Many people have a habit of negative or defeating self talk. Phrases such as:? "I always mess up, My mind is like a sieve, I'm too old to learn anything new, and I have no energy".? Or, "I'm not smart enough, I'm too fat, Life is hard", etc.? Worse yet, when we're not speaking these messages out loud, they are still having their way with us as an inner, unconscious, ongoing dialogue.??These mean and nasty words can suck us into a downward spiral of fear, sadness and anger. These emotions deplete our nervous system, sapping our vital energy source.

Many of us grew up hearing these types of negative messages, often complete with an angry and frustrated tone. We then turned these messages inward;? our bodies and minds at the mercy of an ongoing, negative, unconscious commentary.? It is no wonder life feels challenging and overwhelming at times.? It is so important to understand that we have all been conditioned from our earliest years, it is not our fault, and we have done nothing wrong.? It is, however, our responsibility to adopt new health and happiness promoting messages going forward.?

The good news is that we can change this. We can learn to feed ourselves nourishing words, words of love, support and encouragement.? We can develop a practice of Metta, Loving Kindness; in our thoughts, words and deeds.?

Instructions:

Slow down, pause and stop, notice what is going on in your mind right now??Are the? words or phrases making you feel good or are they making you feel bad?? What are some kind and loving words you would like to hear? ? Some examples might be: " I love you, I am Brilliant, I am Creative, I appreciate myself, I am Valuable, I belong here". Say these words to yourself out loud or silently.?

As you speak? these words to yourself, feel the quality and vibrational energy of each phrase, allowing the energy to flow in, shifting your emotional and physiological energy state.? If you feel resistance or stuckness, it is the mind circling back to the old pattern. Remember, anything new will most likely set off a threat response. Here you can call in lots of love and compassion, unconditional love for yourself.? Let yourself know that you are in charge now and that it is safe to choose a new pattern. It is also a good idea to write down the new love language messages you are now choosing for yourself. You can post them in various places in your home, office and even in your car!?

As you become more consciously aware of your thoughts and feelings, without criticism or judgment, your healing can begin to take root.? You get to take charge of your health, happiness and healing. You might like to check out any of Louise Hay's many volumes of work, the very Queen of Affirmations. Louise Hay certainly had a big influence on my life, "Thank you, Louise".

Let the deep understanding begin, let the deep healing take hold; and let yourself feel good now.?

I hope these articles on the, 4 Essential Practices, the Way to Feel Good Now, have been of benefit.? Next week I will pull the, 4 Essential Practices, together and possibly include an audio!

Take Good Care ?