Desperate Ambitions need not give best results

Being overly ambitious can be a derailer in many ways, the core being that you may end up placing your ambitions before everything else, to the detriment of others or even yourself, paradoxical as that last one may sound to you. A few examples of how that may play out: not spending enough time with your loved ones, taking actions from a self-centred position, disregarding the needs and rights of others or working so hard that you end up ruining your health as a result of just listening to the burning call of your ambitions.

The answer is mindfulness. Learn to find a way to build a daily reflective mechanism into your life, where you learn to check into the state of things at an embodied level. Make a list of the things you want to do. Ask yourself for each whether they are really what you need to do and what drives you in picking them. Learn to realize that if you find ways to bring others on board and work with them, rather than seeing them as nuisances that get in the way of your achievements (which you would be prone to do if you are overambitious), you can balance this potential derailer and turn it in to the biggest drivers of collective success. In other words: learn to sit on your hands and listen and take on board the perspectives and drive of others. It's what the best leaders learn to do, with spectacular results.

I acknowledge signs of being mediocre or average. It has caused me a lot of stress and self hate, and only recently have I really started to tackle this "disease" that needs a cure. What has been working for me is practicing telling myself and deeply reflecting on all the aspects of myself that I feel limit me, or cause me to be so overly ambitious. It has helped me slow down because I am not so busy always trying to be the better more perfect me. Instead, I say to myself loudly that I am mature enough, at all moments, exactly how I am in that moment.

Always give it a shot. My only caveat is that it takes real courage to look at yourself exactly how you are, and embrace it. Struggle through it without distraction. But desperately wanting something is not very likely to bring it about. Your sense of want and your desperation serve mainly to perpetuate an attitude of lack and limitation. Rather than putting your energy into wanting something, put your energy into creating it. Instead of following a desperate kind of ambition, live with a confident kind of acceptance. Know that no matter what happens, there is a way for you to move positively forward.

The biggest obstacle standing in the way of anything is often your idea that it cannot be. Once you plan something out, force you self to make a second version with a few elements knocked out, and then take that version and edit it again. Then compare the three and you can get some perspective on how over or under ambitious you are. Why should over-ambition need to be cured? I don't see why it should have a negative connotation. Whatever happened to aiming for the moon and landing among the stars?! Be over ambitious, I say. With integrity. Always with integrity.

"Mostly because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” Think as if, act as if what you seek is already taking shape, and it will be. Open yourself to the magnificent abundance in which you’re immersed, and let go of all thoughts of lack and limitation. Move beyond that painful, ineffective, desperate kind of ambition. Step forward with confidence and assurance to bring about the reality of whatever you seek. Therefore, try to live like.a river. Forget your past and focus on your future. Always be positive.?Cheers!