Design Your Future, so it Doesn’t Happen by Default

As a career development and executive coach, I work with individuals who are focused on making changes to their lives and careers to better align their values and strengths.? But for some, their best plans often get stalled in analysis paralysis, which results in stagnation and a hard stop to forward momentum.

Perfection is Impossible

Let go of the debilitating mindset, “I’ll be ready when…” and focus on what you can do now. Striving for perfection or absolute readiness is unrealistic and a waste of precious energy that you can be focusing on getting something done, which you are ready for now.

Career perfection is unattainable so focus on your personal best and get comfortable being a lifelong work in progress. Be open to the paradigm that success is 10% skill and 90% collaboration and ramp up your willingness to work with others to accomplish great things.

The Overthinking Trap

Melody Wilding wrote a great piece in the Harvard Business Review about the types of overthinking and how to overcome it. Here is a condensed version of her insight:

Overthinking can take three forms: rumination, overanalyzing, and future tripping. Here’s how to spot and handle each one — before they cause you to spiral, stress, and ultimately burn out.

Rumination. This is a mental loop where you dwell on past events, particularly negative or distressing ones. If you tend to fixate on negative feedback, bring up past failures in conversation with others, or you’re overly cautious about work, you might be a ruminator. To diffuse your rumination, set aside 15 to 30 minutes to grapple with these negative thoughts. This will help you compartmentalize and stop yourself from ruminating constantly throughout the day.

Overanalyzing. Procrastinating, over-relying on others’ approval, and having trouble prioritizing are all tendencies of over analyzers. To break the cycle, shift your aim from “perfect” to “good enough.”

Future tripping. If you spend excessive energy planning for every possible scenario, or you find it hard to celebrate your successes because you’re always thinking about what’s next, you’re likely a future tripper. To address it, use your forward-looking tendencies to your advantage by projecting yourself into a future where the stress of this moment is behind you.

Prototype, Test, Repeat

Design Thinking is a creative, iterative approach to problem solving that places humans at the center of the process. I employ Design Thinking methodology in career development and leadership coaching to help clients utilize the process to try new things and test and get feedback so they can make well informed decisions on their career journey.

Getting stuck often equals being fearful about the unknowns on the other side of an equation. By prototyping, you create a representation of one or more of your ideas to show others. Think of it as a rough draft and share within your professional circle of trust and ask for feedback. What worked? What didn’t? By repeating this process with as many new concepts that you are considering, you gain valuable insight by crowd-sourcing feedback. The process is by nature, forward moving and gives you opportunities to turn ideas into prototypes and eventually realities.

Good Enough to Go

One of the reasons I appreciate Design Thinking is that the ideation and prototyping phases of the process need not be 100% refined or polished. Ideation gives you permission to come up with multiple creative solutions to prototype and eventually test. Big hairy audacious goals are encouraged!

Seasoned designers relish the phrase, “Good enough to go” because they know in most cases you can continue to refine the concept, product, or idea. Think of the Apple iPhone and its many iterations. I am confident there will be more to come. Rarely is something absolutely done.

Future by Design – a Women’s Retreat in Indianapolis October 25th?

Ultimately, you alone have control over your career and life. If you need a little help getting started – consider attending my Future by Design Women’s Retreat on October 25th in Indianapolis. This full-day intensive retreat is followed by 2 months of virtual engagement to help you stay on track as you design a life and career that you want to lead. Details and registration here .

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Caroline Dowd-Higgins ?is passionate about unlocking the art-of-the-possible in her work with individuals and organizations as a certified executive coach, a best-selling author, a dynamic speaker, and sought-after consultant. Her new book, “Your Career Advantage : Overcome Challenges to Achieve a Rewarding Work Life” is empowering people to enjoy their careers and love their lives. Caroline hosts the award winning podcast, Your Working Life with listeners in 34 countries. She is proud to be a certified Minority Women’s Business Enterprise. Her celebrated TEDxWOMEN talk about reframing failure is available on YouTube . Follow her on Facebook , LinkedIn , and Twitter .

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