Deliberate Leaders are self aware

Self awareness is a good thing in leadership right?

Yes.? And it can be challenging.? What if we become aware of something about ourselves that makes us feel uncomfortable or embarrassed?

Being more self-aware is like observing yourself in the moment and being in the moment.? Imagine if you could float up above yourself a few feet as you were having an interaction with someone. ?You could observe and be in the interaction simultaneously.? Sounds like a superpower, and it is, the superpower of self-awareness.?

Deliberate leaders are self aware.? They understand that self-awareness is fundamental to emotional intelligence.? In researching self-awareness, I like this perspective.? Self-awareness is an inwardly focused evaluative process in which individuals make self/standard comparisons with the goal of better self-knowledge and improvement .? Inward focus is about looking in and considering the outwardly impact of our behaviour. What’s the impact of my behaviour?? It is creating the impact I want?? How am I impacting others? Better self-knowledge and improvement are about a deeper understanding of self.? Knowing how I react, respond, and then behave.? Making choices about the circumstances I expose myself to and understanding the consequences of those choices.? Making choices that are better for me, and that limit impact on others, while leaving me in a positive mental state.? Self-awareness is about looking inwards, assessing self, and improving to elevate impact.?

Self -Awareness in Leadership

My aim is to help leaders be more self-aware.? Why?? I love working with leaders and I love leading.??? I am grateful to have had the opportunity to lead.? The constant spotlight of leadership can be like a growth tonic.? If subject to the right conditions, you grow.? You are constantly adapting, evolving, responding, reacting, and planning for the circumstances you and those you lead find themselves in. It is not always comfortable under the spotlight.? It can get hot under the searing light sometimes, impacting the decisions you might make, how you might make them, and the impact of these decisions on others.?? Growth can be uncomfortable too.? It can hurt.? My kids have complained about growing pains over the years, and there is a valid reason.? As we grow, things stretch, bones and muscles move.? Our body’s scaffolding is trying to accommodate the expansion, the movement, and the reality of growth.? By the time we grow into the leader we aspire to be, and we have done the growing part, it’s time to grow in a new direction.?? Our growth doesn’t stop, and it doesn’t even pause. It evolves.?

Self -awareness allows us to better understand what we need to facilitate growth.? What do we need to make it more comfortable, easier, smoother, and more enjoyable?? Is it better communication?? A focus on trust in our relationships?? More attentiveness to our strategy and how to execute it?? An understanding of our leadership style?? Greater self-awareness will help you to be a more deliberate leader.? ??

How do we become more deliberately self- aware?

1.???? Create trust in your relationships

Trust facilitates feedback.? Feedback is unlikely to be given to you without trust.? Start here.? Be deliberate about building your reputation, credibility, and connection with your team.

2.???? Encourage feedback

“Can I give you some feedback?”? is not often followed by something positive.? But the more we do it, and the more we balance providing both positive and constructive feedback, the more others will do this too.? Also, get a new line!? Rather than “Can I give you some feedback?”, develop another way to signal that you want to provide feedback.? “I wanted to let you know that…”. “The other day when you did…, it was so well received.”? “I think you may have caused a ripple with… how could you have handled that differently?”

3.???? Acknowledge feedback

You don’t have to take on every bit of feedback you receive, but at the very least, you do need to acknowledge it.? Thank you for taking the time to give me that feedback, is all you need to say.? Acknowledging it makes it more likely that you will receive feedback again in the future, as it has not been ignored.

4.???? Have a daily check in with yourself

This is a reflective check in where you think about your interactions and behaviour during the day.

·?????? Did I act in accordance with my personal values today?

·?????? If not, why not?

·?????? Do I need to have a follow up conversation with anyone?

·?????? When will I do this?

·?????? What am I most proud of today?

·?????? What did I learn about myself today?

?5.???? Focus on your strengths

The path to greater self-awareness is not only about picking at all your faults and gaps.? It’s about recognising and leveraging your strengths too.? More time spent here, means more focus in these areas, and we tend to prefer doing what we are good at.? Understand how your strengths support others too.? This will make you a more deliberate leader.

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6. Complete the Deliberate Leader Diagnostic

To increase self-awareness, keep taking the opportunity to complete diagnostics. Diagnostics have huge impact in helping bring to light a different perspective.? Provided you are open to digesting the information, then I recommend completing them to enhance your self awareness.

Here is the deliberate leader diagnostic for you to complete which will provide an assessment for you against the eight deliberate leader attributes in my new book, You Are How You Lead.

"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do" Eleanor Roosevelt

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