Defining Success

How we define Success can infiltrate our lives.

I used to think that success looked like awards, certificates and external validation for my life. I 'needed' them to feel as though people saw me as successful. But the game posts were always moving as there way no measure for success. It was freaking stressful to say the least and I was starting to question why I wasn't ever measuring up to the success I desired.

Something changed....

This year my 8 year old son Played Soccer - it most magically change the way I view and measure success, It's incredible the life lessons we can learn through our Child experiences as they discover there own way to measure and define the world around them and their own success.

Here's what I learnt:

1. WE play to win and measure success in other areas of the game such as going for th ball even though it scary or ignoring parents on the side. If we achieve these things then it's Success.

2. How we hold ourselves before, during and after the theoretical game is where we should measure success

3. Through the season skills will increase - so we can measure and celebrate the success of learning a new skill (and turning up even when it feels like its not quite happening yet)

4. The aim of the game is enjoyment- Its safe to enjoy and have fun. measure your life off the enjoyment and not the score card or ladder board. Have fun and feel into the joy and experience of being apart of the game.

I saw my son and me as the season commenced our idea of what a "good game" had changed dramatically. WE are celebrating all the fun, the mud, the laugher and enjoyment that was experiences.

The thing is we get to decide if our lives are success or not, and we also get to decide to stop outsourcing who and what makes us feel successful. It's our persecutive and We get a choice. WE can be in the moment, allow it to be a success. There is a right way for you and it's your time to OWN IT.

How do you measure success?

What does success look like to you?

Chat soon,

Lauren