Decisions Decisions !

I recently discovered that most of us can't even decide! We feel so overwhelmed when we're faced with a situation like that! We freak out no matter what we had to choose, whether it's the jam flavor in the grocery store, or it's the person we'll spend the rest of our lives with!

And although what makes us "Humans" special; is our ability to CHOOSE, we were never taught to do so.

It's not a mistake to ask someones' opinion or consult them before you make up your mind, in fact, it's the right thing to do! ALWAYS ALWAYS ask a trusted "professional" on the matter, even pay a consultant to give you advice.

I wrote down some (experimented methods) that can help you decide before blowing your brains out from overthinking!

• Write a pros. and cons. list. You know what, use this in every decision; no matter how small in your life!
• To help your mind actually decide, I found that thinking about the matter for a specific amount of time; let's say an hour, then, go do something else, watch a movie, go out, read a book. During this time, your mind is already processing all info. and will inform you when it finds something.
• Ask someone you trust to help clear things up and help you decide, someone who'll tell you the truth even if it hurts, not what you want to hear! If you don't have someone, then just pick up the phone and call a professional (no matter what the area was), schedule a visit and consult them. They probably have so much more experience than you on the matter on hand! and by the way, they "exist" to help you!

**NOTE: If you're deciding on a big decision, I'd recommend to not talk to your family about it (at first at least), most of the time (and because they love you so much and don't want to see you get hurt), they'll probably try and talk you out of it, they're exactly like your mind; which prefers the comfort zone and freaks out if you ever decided to change anything!

• Google the matter, trust me, you'll be surprised how many people have asked the same questions you're asking! or even better, write your question on Quora; one of the best places for different communities asking all sorts of questions in science, entertainment, engineering, Instagram...etc
• Critical Thinking: the analysis of facts to form a judgment. Getting to the bottom of every point you make (regarding the decision) by asking why and stating the facts, is a really great way to do this. Draw a map if you like, whatever you feel comfortable with.

• One thing that really helps me is to go to the library, choose a book, totally out of my comfort zone and read it. Usually, my Aha moments comes then! You could watch a movie as well.
• Meditating and clearing your mind, setting with your own thoughts and nothing else (this is found to be the scariest method of all). Remind yourself of your values and standards and if the decision you're about to make is aligned with those values!

After you've walked through all those tips, I need you to trust your self, your experience and also trust that God is good and will choose what's best for you, he always does, even when we're so impatient to see it!

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One last point before I sign off guys, when you hopefully successfully make your choice, "WRITE" why you chose this decision, keep a record of your pros and cons list and your emotions and thoughts when you made the decision because you'll need that if you've ever doubted yourself or thought even about regretting your CHOICE!

Hope the above helps guys, even a little to help you make your next decisions!

Yasmeen.T