“There Are Decades Where Nothing Happens, And Weeks Where Decades Happen.”
What. Just. Happened?
It’s only been a week and a day since a twenty-year-old rooftop sniper took a shot at a former American President and drew blood in the middle of a campaign speech.
As if that hasn’t been enough to process… less than 24 hours ago the current President posted on social media that he’s taking a step back and has decided not to compete for the job again. If you’re keeping score, that’s for an election that’s roughly 100 days away.
From a therapeutic perspective; this Monday morning may not feel safe. From an EFT perspective; attachments to either candidate have been tested. From the perspective of the voting public; it feels like all of the sudden the future of the country is a jump ball.
The quote that is the title of this week’s newsletter is often attributed to Russian revolutionary and founder of the Soviet Union Vladimir Lenin. (I hope you find the irony here as delicious as I do.) These are surely interesting times.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’re well aware of the news items I just pointed out. Last week I thought the assassination attempt would be a hot topic in sessions. At a minimum, I thought I’d hear about, you know, maybe… gun control? Maybe. Nope.
Out of 20 clients, only two mentioned the assassination attempt. Days later, when I was getting my haircut on Friday, my barber said I was only the second person to bring it up. It made me wonder. Why aren’t people talking about it?
In light of this weekend’s news….Will the coming week be different? Will people be talking about the uncertainty they feel? ?
Think about the wobbly feeling you get when there’s friction with someone you love? The uncertainty. Feeling overwhelmed. Harsh words start flying and you’re asking ?yourself, “what just happened?”
Those feelings of shock, horror and uncertainty are not ones that are unfamiliar to couples therapists. If anything, these are emotions that may feel as comfortable as a handed-down Pendleton robe . Using techniques from Emotionally Focused Therapy should come in handy.
How might current events impact our clients? To be honest… I don’t know.
I do know that the rest of this year will be a rocket ride. We just have to move forward and talk about it.
Come on 2024… what else ya got?
Now on with this week’s Ohio EFT Newsletter:
Why Americans Aren’t Having Babies.
by Rachel Wolfe on July 22nd, 2024
The costs and rising expectations of parenthood are making young people think hard about having any children at all. The Wall Street Journal has the story.
Married Women Are Confessing The Difficulties Of Marriage That No One Talks About, And It Hits Hard.
by?Liz Richardson on July 22nd, 2024
"The hardest part was realizing that society had groomed me my entire life to make others happy...and groomed him to make himself comfortable." Buzzfeed gathered 21 answers in this interesting listicle .
Narcissism Is A Trait That’s Hard To Shake, Study Says.
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by Christina Caron on July 22nd, 2024
Here’s how to recognize it and cope with the narcissist in your life.
Our Next OhioEFT Zoom Call Is This Friday, July 26th.
by OhioEFT on July 22nd, 2024
Join us at 9:00am on the last Friday of July for our continuing discussion about Emotionally Focused Therapy. We’ll continue our June discussion of macro-interventions and micro-interventions. Here’s the link . I’ll send out a reminder again on Thursday. Hope to see you on the call!
Learning From Death.
by Retro Recomendo on July 22nd, 2024
Frank Ostaseski has accompanied over 1,000 people as they died in a hospice, and in this?60-minute podcast ?(recorded at a Long Now seminar), he distills what lessons the dying — and death — have taught him. Their wisdom is deep, complex, potent, intimate, and unexpected (not cliche). It will shift your relationship to life. The staff at Recomendo says that listening (or watching the video) will be one of the best hours in your life.
8 Books For Better Sex.
by Hope Reese on July 22nd, 2024
Sex educators, counselors and coaches recommend their favorites in this New York Times article .
Ketamine’s Long, Strange Trip: The Cred Of This Miracle Med Has Gotten Murkier And, Somehow, More Promising.
by David Ewing Duncan on July 22nd, 2024
K is a wonder drug. K is addictive. K is transcendental. Beware the K-hole. Matthew Perry drowned in his hot tub while on ketamine. This assessment of K by Vanity Fair’s science writer is quite interesting. The writer used the drug to combat depression and long-haul COVID.
I Said He Could, So He Did.
by Kay Bloomberg on July 22nd, 2024
If you give your partner permission to sleep with someone else, he might take that as permission to leave. Read more in this Modern Love article from the NYTimes.
How To (Gently) Talk To Aging Parents About Downsizing And Decluttering
by Kristin Luna on July 22nd, 2024
It can feel insensitive — and even morbid — but there are tactful ways to start the process.
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4 个月I thought that was Lenin quoted in your title, you sly guy. Yes, irony, indeed. As to why people aren't bringing these things up - I honestly think the world is moving SO fast and we've become numb to much of what is happening. The way in which things are reported (much less a growing amount of the reporting itself) brings a sense of distrust, disbelief and "is that even real" to mind if you take the time to think about it - which again, I'm not sure people really are. And if you aren't thinking about it - or trying to avoid it - you are far less likely to talk about it. Thoughts, Chris Cantergiani MFT?