Debunking the Common Myths About Stress: What It Is, Isn’t, and Why It Matters

When you hear the word "stress," what comes to mind? Deadlines? Anxiety? Burnout? The truth is, much of what we believe about stress is shaped by myths that have been passed around for decades. Today, we're setting the record straight.

Myth 1: Stress Is Always Bad

Let’s bust this myth right away. Stress isn’t your enemy. In fact, some stress is essential for growth. This is called eustress, the positive kind that helps you rise to challenges, boosts motivation, and sharpens focus. Think of the excitement before a big presentation or the adrenaline rush before a race. Stress becomes harmful only when it's chronic, unmanaged, and overwhelming.

Myth 2: Stress Comes Only from Negative Experiences

Not true. Positive events can be stressful too. Starting a new job, getting married, or moving to a new city — all can trigger stress. It’s not just the nature of the event but how your brain perceives and processes change. The brain doesn’t differentiate much between "good" or "bad" stress; it simply responds to demand for adaptation.

Myth 3: You Can Eliminate Stress Completely

Spoiler alert: You can’t. Stress is part of life. Trying to eliminate it is like trying to avoid gravity. Instead, the goal is to understand stress and build resilience so that stress doesn't control you. It’s about changing your relationship with stress, not erasing it.

Your Nervous System: The Control Center of Stress

Think of your nervous system as your body’s operating system. It automatically responds to stress through two key branches:

• Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS): This is your "fight-or-flight" mode. When you’re stressed, your heart races, breathing quickens, and adrenaline surges to prepare you for action.
• Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS): This is your "rest-and-digest" mode. It helps you relax, recover, and reset after the stressor has passed.

The problem isn’t stress itself—it’s when your body gets stuck in SNS overdrive, without enough time to activate the PNS and recover. That’s when chronic stress sneaks in.

The Brain Under Stress: What’s Really Going On?

Stress isn’t just a feeling; it’s a biological process involving key players in your brain:

• Amygdala (The Alarm System): It detects threats and sounds the alarm, triggering the stress response. Under chronic stress, it becomes hypersensitive, reacting even to minor triggers (Roozendaal et al., 2009, Nature Reviews Neuroscience).
• Prefrontal Cortex (The Decision-Maker): Responsible for reasoning and decision-making. Chronic stress can weaken its function, making it harder to think clearly or regulate emotions (Arnsten, 2009, Nature Reviews Neuroscience).
• Hippocampus (The Memory Keeper): Involved in learning and memory. Prolonged stress can shrink this region, affecting memory and cognitive flexibility (McEwen & Morrison, 2013, Annual Review of Psychology).

When you're in chronic stress, these parts of your brain are constantly impacted. Sneakily, chronic stress isn’t always loud and obvious. Sometimes, it’s the low-level, constant buzz you’ve normalized—the tight shoulders, restless sleep, and irritability you dismiss as “just life.” Over time, this silent stress can wear down both your mind and body, leading to anxiety, depression, weakened immunity, and burnout.

But here’s the good news: Your brain is plastic. It can adapt, rewire, and recover with the right strategies.

Building Resilience: Training Your Brain to Handle Stress Better

Absolutely. While you can't eliminate stress, you can build resilience and teach your brain to respond differently:

• Mindfulness & Meditation: Helps regulate the amygdala and strengthen the prefrontal cortex.
• Physical Activity: Reduces stress hormones and boosts endorphins.
• Breathwork: Activates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting calm.
• Cognitive Reframing: Shifts your perspective, helping you see challenges as opportunities.

Final Take Away

Stress Isn’t the Problem. It’s How We Respond to It. Stress is a part of being human. But understanding it, debunking the myths, and changing how we respond to it? That’s where the real power lies. Don’t aim for a stress-free life. Aim for a resilient one. Build your resilience with existing & the proven strategies.