DEALING WITH DISAPPOINTMENTS

I love positive thinking.

I love the privilege that I can focus on the positive things in life and allow them to influence and happen to me.

It might sound too motivational and maybe too serious kind of life talk. But that's not for me you see. I'm a preacher of what works and I do so unashamedly.

Unfortunately, there's another side to this coin. The side of circumstances beyond our control.

How do we deal with it?

It usually gets very shocking like the baby girl entering a roller coaster for the first time, or maybe a sliding staircase.

The reason could be that we never get prepared for it. No one ever gets prepared for it. At least I'm sure I don't.

I remember my secondary school form teacher telling us she never misses the burial of a loved one or acquaintance no matter what. I thought she was the weirdest human ever. How can someone love to attend funerals?

I hate how I feel when the news gets to me that someone I know, is late, talk more about the funeral

But then she said something afterward... They remind her that one day someday, she will be lying in that casket. It makes her conscious of eternity.

It's pure wisdom that is hard to digest.

Pessimists call it being realistic. The fact remains, however, that there's a good side to every story.

I'm not asking you to embrace pessimism, that can't be me.

I'm only saying we learn to prepare our minds with the consciousness that some circumstances beyond our control will come from time to time, which will help us follow them up with the right attitude.

That is why some people seem stronger than others. It's nothing other than mindset.

I had sea ries of experiences that made me write this. Those circumstances hit me badly because I wasn't prepared for them. Hubby, on the other hand, was typically the opposite of me. I'm sincerely grateful for this. During that time, I drew my strength from his, and it helped a lot

Life is full of uncertainties that are only certain with one person and that is God almighty. He knows everything even before the beginning of time.

What do we do with this information then? We entrust this uncertainty to him and trust that he knows what he's doing.

We trust however direction he chose to take them will benefit us well.

This is the best way to live. It is not only scripture-wise, it is healthy. Your body soul and spirit need peace, and worry and anxiety are one thing that drives them far away from us.

It could steal a lot in a short time. Please do not give it that privilege.

I'll summarize this with a story I read one time in the past about a young widow that was left with a difficult life after her husband was deceased.

?She struggled so hard to feed her four little children. Every day, she kept asking herself if this kind of life will ever end. But nothing changed. It seemed it got worse by the day.

She had given up on God a long time ago, cos it seemed heaven has forgotten they exist.

As days turned to weeks, then to months, and nothing changed, she began to give up on life too. She felt leaving this world was their only option.

So, that night, she made up her mind to end everything the next day.

After they had breakfast... Their supposed last breakfast. Around 110:00 am T, the kids were sleeping peacefully. She locked the door to their room, went to the kitchen, and turned up the gas cylinder.

?She then joined her kids in the room while they waited for whatever ended afterward.

She began to hear a song.

It was the radio.

The little old radio in the room that has been playing started an old song that read thus.

What a friend we have in Jesus

All our sins and grief to bear

What a privilege to carry

Everything to God on prayer

Oh what sins we often forfeit

Oh what needless pain we bear

All because we do not carry

Everything to God in prayer

She got soaked in the lyrics. She was all tears by the end.

What is wrong with me she said. How did I even get here?

She immediately rushed to the kitchen and turn off the gas, she opened all the windows while she tried to wake her kids...

Her mindset changed after that day... And of course, her life followed suit.