Dealing with Different Personality Types

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By Dan Harkey

·????? We are defined by those we associate with:

Most people wake up each day, occupy time and space in productive activities, go to work, and engage in interactive communication with others; we are confronted with the reality that people around us are different and have many motivations. They have diverse personalities and agendas, some kindred, some void of thought, some adverse, and some curious. Some will surprise you with their intellect, and some will appear dumb as nails.

Everyone is created differently, grows up differently, and develops different ideas and value systems. These value systems may be learned through experience, culture, family, or compulsion.? Yes, I mean compulsion.? Your learning includes the government's actions to force you to do something or to constrain you from doing something. Examples are posted speed limits, paying taxes, not gambling in a private home, and not engaging in any business activity without registering and obtaining temporary permission through a permit process. Everything we do and own in society is full of temporary permissions issued by the government complex, and an entry requires a permission fee.

Understanding and respecting these diverse value systems can enlighten us and inform our interactions, making us more open-minded and understanding.

Each of us develops a “frame of reference.” ?We create a set of criteria to process our interpretations and judgments and to develop a value system. ?We constantly face interaction with divergent personalities. ?Both internal and external forces affect our frame of reference. We develop habits about what we should do or think we should do based on our background of knowledge and experience.? Our associations form our frame of reference. These may include our families, teachers, education, religious affiliations, military, labor unions, government, and mainstream social media input. Our collective and experiential frame of reference is established early in life, most likely before we are ten.

There are many external forces through which we may be taught various opinions, attitudes, and beliefs, as well as biases in school, religions, political affiliations, friends, groups, or criminal gangs.

Each day, we have options to help us in our personality and attitude. ?This is one of the most vital foundations of our existence.

Here are a few personality types that we are confronted with each day. ??Different personality types may accept and adapt to life and its challenges optimistically or pessimistically. ?Also, we may fall into more than one category at various times. Understanding and navigating these different personality types can empower us and make us more capable in our interactions. It's important to remember that we can choose our associations, and by choosing positive ones, we can inspire hope and optimism in ourselves and others. This choice of positive associations is crucial for our inspiration and hopefulness.

·????? The Normi is a common personality type we encounter daily. This individual is hard-working, task-oriented, and values family and conventional living. They often hold mainstream attitudes and interests.

I want to work and live within the framework provided by my government. I see no need to take excess risks other than necessary to earn a good paycheck. Of course, my goal is to live the American dream: a home, a family, and two dogs in the yard. I occupy my time with conventional stuff like kids' activities, watching football, attending church, engaging in community involvement, and attending to things around the house.

I seek a good relationship with my employer because it is necessary for income generation.? My spouse and I work because we are on a financial treadmill trying to keep up. ??Every time I think I am catching up, the government issues a bunch of fiat currency, which I get none of, inflation goes up, purchasing power of my dollars goes down, and everything sucks up all our income until we have no discretionary income at all.

·????? The dynamic (Dynamo) person has a positive attitude, is full of energy, and has new ideas. They are hard-charged, confident, independent, self-sufficient, and non-conformist. Dynamos usually possess an entrepreneurial spirit and enjoy perpetual learning.

I know what I want out of life, and please do not become an obstacle. ?As always, I will wake up each day, have my coffee, and look forward to a new, successful day with dynamic challenges. I expect some failures and many successes.

I will press forward and confront all barriers, as I always do. I will void out the drumbeat of mainstream media's biased attempts to manipulate me. ?I will also void out the government propaganda machine designed to wear me down into submission and conformity. Although the drumbeat of noise around me is purposefully negative, I will maintain a positive attitude. Based on what I have learned and internalized, my world is defined by family, health, language, borders, culture, individual accountability, and self-sufficiency. I fully intend to overcome all barriers, even though they are ever apparent.

I am an optimist, a risk-taker, and a visionary.? I will accept setbacks, but only temporarily.? I will spring back to new heights beyond all imagination.? No rigged system with negativity, control, implied subordination, or metaphysical experiment shall modify my goals.? My inner strength will nurture and sustain what I have learned. ?I am results-driven rather than process-driven. Tenacity is my driving force.?

I will be a force to encourage others to develop a like mind and confidence to become a dynamo. I will associate with kindred spirits and avoid others when possible. No disrespect, just preference. Associating with dynamic and positive people will reinforce my attitudes, performance, and results of my chosen tasks.

·?????????????? The Entitled, the Selfish,? the Couch Potato, Devoid of Conscience and Thought:

I will wake up and have my coffee. ?My priority is to turn on the television news to determine what is happening today in the world around me. ?I will watch Fox, MSNBC, CNN, NBC, and ABC. ?I am waiting to be led and enlightened by people who are much more intelligent than me. ??Smart people in the mainstream media and the government are there to inform me about what is essential and what I should focus on. ?Their delivery of pertinent information will enlighten me about what is in my best interest. I will quickly learn about everything I should be aware of to reinforce my belief system.

I will become upset if the news or conversations with others contradict my beliefs and value system.?? Getting upset makes me a participant! I can discuss these issues with my friends, who naturally are of kindred minds. My friends and I reinforce each other. Be damned with those who are not smart enough to accept all the elements of my beliefs and opinions.

The couch potato may get a job but needs better performance and skills. Their attitude is to go through the process rather than look at the results. Avoiding responsibility is paramount. “Quitting” and “quiet resignation” are always preferred. The Couch potato could care less if the employer expects results in the performance of daily tasks. Their primary goals are just getting by and going through the motions.

Maybe I will refuse to take the Pledge of Allegiance, engage in a demonstration, or join a criminal gang to gain more power and get free stuff.

·?????????????? The Worry Wart- Everything is filtered through a Negative process: ?

I could get more done if I did not have all these things to worry about. I worry about things that I can control and things that I cannot control.

Remember Eeyore, the little gray donkey in “Winnie The Pooh”? “Good morning, Pooh Bear; if it is a good morning, which I doubt, why does it matter?” ?We can focus on creating worry and consternation. We can organize our days with feelings of fear, anxiety, dismay, and panic. ?Here are a few thoughts to add to the external worry basket.

·?????????????? The massive volcano in Yellowstone National Park has the potential to blow up and alter the geography of the entire United States. This could have enormous implications for humanity if any are left.

?????????????? Global warming, or climate change, will decimate how we desire to live.

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·?????????????? International predators, such as Iran, Venezuela, Russia, and China, are going to take advantage of us or attempt to eliminate us. There are bogeymen everywhere.? There may even be bogeywomen if you inject a little politics.

·?????????????? The USA could be nuked by the chubby 30 -30-year-old, crazy leader of North Korea, Kim Jong-Un! His family dynasty has always specialized in intimidation and extortion. They have always rattled the international community until they are paid to shut up.? It has never worked. Like any other welfare recipient, they keep wanting more. Like dependency, there is no stopping unless too many strings are attached to the free stuff delivered.

·?????????????? There could be a massive electromagnetic pulse (EMP) created by exploding a thermonuclear hydrogen bomb about 5 miles above the earth’s surface. That may eliminate my internet connection, cell phone access, automobile electronics, and electrical outlet availability. Or even worse, a nuclear EMP creates even more widespread damage.

·?????????????? The grocery stores may be bare before I arrive in an emergency.? The lines for emergency groceries and gas stations may be prohibitive. Where will I be able to get a beer?

·?????????????? Will I be able to get my kids out of school and consolidate my family for safety?

·?????????????? What will I do if my parasitic friends and relatives show up at my house because they did not develop a plan? They will, of course, rely on stupid excuses. Sorry, there is no beer here. Maybe I can spare a couple of cans of tuna, some toilet paper, and paper towels, but that’s it.?? Don’t you love suckers who never plan? Certain things never change.

·?????????????? We may not have access to electricity at the gas station, grocery store, municipal water storage tanks, and sewer pumping stations. What will happen to my refrigerator full of beer or the beer pump at my favorite Pub? In-And-Out Burger could be without electricity and natural gas to grill those tasty burgers. All products, goods, and services that originate with the help of electricity would cease.? Few companies or private parties have backup electrical generators.

·?????????????? Will I have enough gas in my car without operating gas stations? Do I have a couple of extra 5-gallon gas cans for emergencies?

·?????????????? If there is no electricity, how can I access my money in the bank? What if they declare a bank holiday and refuse to give me my money? ?The bank employees may go home to care for their families instead.

·?????????????? My natural gas outlets for the stove, BBQ, and fireplace will not work because there will not be a pump between the municipal gas storage tanks and our on-site units, which require electricity.

·?????????????? The opposing political party, the one I despise the most, may overtake our government and move the political and socioeconomic direction of the country against me.

·?????????????? Someone is always thinking about how to raise my taxes, reduce my liberties, and confiscate my property.

·?????????????? How will I provide for my family and legacy if so many predatory forces exist worldwide?

·?????????????? Who will protect me from all my adversaries? ?Colleges are now teaching at high school levels of 40 years ago. Histories are being rewritten to sway the public’s belief systems into socialist beliefs.? They are having great success!? The illusion of getting more free stuff always sways voters to vote for more benefits.

·????? ?????The Sociopath and pathological Liar:

·????? These people may believe they are the most intelligent in their community.

·????? This person may exhibit traits of a sociopath, dwelling in their comfort zone and spending their days manipulating others for personal gain.

·????? They gloat over their abilities, achievements, and possessions, which they take from others.

·????? They have no desire to be seen by others as their equals. They perceive themselves as superior.

·????? They frequently admire their collection of things as accomplishments.

·????? No American institution is spared, including the government. Many are now in government to capitalize for themselves by tearing down our culture and institutions.

·????? They rip apart concepts of capitalism, self-reliance, individual accountability, individualism, and rights of privacy, as well as shredding the Constitution.

·????? What is left is a country pillaged for the benefit of a few, subject to historical revisionism, persecution, cancellation, and a culture of historical artifacts.

·????? What was normal no longer exists.?

·????? A person may appear anti-social as defined by social norms.? They are not interested in social discourse or emotional interactions with others.?? They view such interactions as degrading because of my superior intellect.

·????? They routinely experience the pure excitement of body and mind, where their heart beats faster, blood flows quicker to their brain and muscles, and their outrageous body stimulus is constant.

·????? They thrive for the next adrenaline rush.

·????? They are addicted to activities with compulsive participation of physical, mental, legal, and financial consequences.

·????? They function appropriately in a fiercely competitive society, given the options.

·?????????????? The Chronic Complainer – The Whiner:

I know that the world is cruel. It seems that only the wicked and dishonest get ahead. I seem always to be wallowing in the evil part.? I cannot understand how everything seems so unfair.

They enjoy bonding over mutual hatred and petty grievances.? They are best at criticizing and condemning.? They seem to use every opportunity to turn conversations into something negative. Nothing is ever good or even acceptable.? Something is always wrong. However, they never suggest a concrete, rational answer or improvement. They attempt to draw from some reasoning or logical foundation to justify their beliefs. They rationalize.

·?????????????? ?The Entitled, Jealous, & Enveous:

They feel discontent with their ill will because of the advantages of others.

They are resentful and usually develop a dislike for another who has something they desire. Jealousy is similar, but the degree of emotion is more significant, including hostility. They have thoughts or feelings of suspicion, insecurity, fear, concern, anger, and resentment.

The problem with having this person in your life is that their feelings toward you are rarely expressed. They may be around you as friends or acquaintances and appear supportive, but they hate every success you have.

They derive pleasure from someone else’s misfortune.? They live in a comforting sense of schadenfreude.? Jealousy & and Envy are a cancer. If given a chance, it will spread to encompass the entire relationship.

·?????????????? ?The Geek or Introvert- An eccentric, non-mainstream person who may be an expert, enthusiast, or obsessed with a hobby or an intellectual pursuit.

This person may be considered peculiar, overtly intellectual, unfashionable, or socially awkward. “What, are you still here? Just leave me alone. I am uninterested”. The Geek has little interest in participating in anything other than their interests and agenda. When they wake up, they always know that the day will be about them and what they want.? They have many online friends, and that keeps them happy and engaged. Other than that, they want to be left alone.? Please do not attempt to engage them in your conversation or direct them toward a subject they are not interested in.? They are comfortable in themselves and their internalized subjects only. ?Everything else is irrelevant.

·????? Who do we want to associate with?

You and I know individuals who fit into the above six personality types. ?We may very well fit into one or more of them ourselves. Let me propose?a few simple questions:

·????? Which one do you want to go to dinner, have a drink, and socialize with for the evening?

·????? ?Which one do you want to engage in a heated back-and-forth debate about the best president, leader, or direction for the country??

·????? Which one do you want to invite into your mentor group who will serve as your support person and develop a complete understanding of you and what you are about, with the full knowledge that the purpose is to be your guide in accomplishing your goals?

·????? Which one will listen attentively and focus on you as you lay out your strategy and agenda in your pursuit of success?

·????? Which will give the most vital, direct, constructive feedback to help you accomplish your goals?

·????? For questions 3, 4, and 5, if you are invited to become their mentor and support person, which of the above personalities do you prefer?

·????? Which of the above personalities do you want your son or daughter to bring home, introduce to you, and express that they are engaged in a serious relationship?

·????? Lastly, of all your close friends, which category does each fit into? Now, do the same exercise for yourself. Which personality do you possess? Even though we may have a dominant trait within the categories above, there will occasionally be spillover characteristics in other personality types.

Thank you

Dan Harkey

Educator and Private Money Lending Consultant

949 533 8315 [email protected]

Visit www.danharkey.com

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