Day 70: 90 Days 90Tips

?? The Art of Influence—How to Get People to Listen (Without Forcing It)

Ever pitched an idea in a meeting, only to be met with silence—then someone else repeats it, and suddenly, it’s brilliant? Or maybe you've tried to get buy-in on a project, but leadership keeps brushing it off.

Let’s be clear: Being right isn’t enough.

? Talking louder? Won’t work.

? Overexplaining? Also won’t work.

? Mastering influence? That’s the key.

Today, we’re diving into how to make people listen, get your ideas heard, and influence without feeling pushy. ????

?? Day 70 Tip: Influence Is a Strategy, Not a Personality Trait

? People listen to those they respect and trust.

? The best communicators don’t just talk—they make others feel heard.

? Influence is built over time, through relationships and credibility.

The goal? Learn how to position your ideas effectively, command attention, and become someone people WANT to listen to.

Here’s how.

?? 3 Steps to Getting People to Listen & Take You Seriously

1?? Speak Their Language (Not Just Yours)

?? Red Flag: If you’re explaining your ideas only from your own perspective, you’re missing the mark.

?? People care about how something affects THEM.

?? If you want buy-in, frame your message in terms of their goals, priorities, and challenges.

?? Influence is about connection—not just persuasion.

?? Pro Tip:

? Talking to leadership? → Focus on business impact, efficiency, and ROI.

? Talking to colleagues? → Emphasize collaboration, workload balance, and teamwork.

? Talking to decision-makers? → Show how your idea solves a problem they care about.

?? Example of Reframing Your Message:

? “We should upgrade this system because it’s outdated.”

? “Upgrading this system will cut our processing time in half, freeing up hours for high-impact work.”

See the difference? Make it matter to THEM.

2?? Build Credibility Before You Need It

?? Red Flag: If the first time you’re trying to influence someone is when you need something, you’re already at a disadvantage.

?? Influence isn’t just about what you say—it’s about who trusts you when you say it.

?? The most influential people build credibility long before they ask for anything.

?? Your reputation is your biggest asset—protect it.

?? Pro Tip:

? Show up as reliable and knowledgeable.

? Support others’ ideas and initiatives before pushing your own.

? Offer value consistently—so when you speak, people already trust you.

?? Example of Building Influence Over Time: Instead of only reaching out when you need help, be someone who:

? Shares insights and helps others regularly.

? Gives credit to team members publicly.

? Engages in discussions so people respect your input.

Your voice carries more weight when people already see you as valuable.

3?? Use Power Statements & Strategic Silence

?? Red Flag: If you’re talking too much to overcompensate, you’re weakening your message.

?? Confidence isn’t in the length of your speech—it’s in the clarity of your message.

?? People remember short, impactful statements.

?? Silence can be just as powerful as speaking.

?? Pro Tip: Say less, mean more.

?? Example of a Power Statement:

? “I think maybe we could possibly try this idea because it might help.”

? “This approach will improve efficiency by 20%. Let’s explore how to implement it.”

?? Example of Strategic Silence:

? Rushing to fill awkward pauses after making a point.

? Making a strong statement—then pausing to let it sink in.

Confidence isn’t about talking more—it’s about talking better.

?? Your Day 70 Challenge: Strengthen Your Influence Today!

?? Your Mission (If You Choose to Accept It!):

? Step 1: Identify one situation where you need to influence someone (a meeting, an idea pitch, a request, etc.).

? Step 2: Apply today’s strategies—reframe your message, build credibility, or use strategic silence.

? Step 3: Drop a comment: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received about influence? Let’s share insights! ???? #90Days90Tips

Why This Matters

People who master influence:

? Get heard, respected, and valued in their workplaces.

? Gain leadership opportunities—even without a leadership title.

? Position themselves for promotions and career growth.

Because here’s the truth: It’s not the loudest voice that wins—it’s the most strategic one.

Looking Ahead to Day 71

Tomorrow, we’re talking about how to manage difficult people at work—because knowing how to influence is great, but knowing how to deal with challenging personalities is even better. ??

?? P.S. Want to Strengthen Your Leadership Presence? Let’s Talk.

?? Want to become a stronger communicator, gain influence, and position yourself as a leader? I’m opening up a few free coaching calls this week to help you build confidence, communicate with impact, and increase your career visibility.

People I’ve worked with have landed promotions, built stronger professional reputations, and grown their influence at work—let’s make sure you’re next. Grab your spot at 90days90tips.com before they fill up! ??

Now go be great.

Sabrena ???