Day 18/21: Stand Your Ground (Part 2)
Lilian Okado
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It looks like I have to split this topic further and insert a part 3 installment (for tomorrow) because there’s so much to say.
Especially because this is an area I really struggled with for years.
As an entrepreneur, especially as a freelancer/ consultant you’re constantly up-skilling and improving your skills to stay on top of your game. This is standard practice, at least for me.
However, sometimes we forget that there are ‘soft skills’ to work on that will take you farther than your actual consulting or freelancing skills.
Today I want to mention one skill in particular that many entrepreneurs just never learn or learn late to their detriment. One that if you don’t quickly acquire, will see you struggle throughout your career to maintain boundaries or when needful, say goodbye to those ‘bad apple’ clients (see Day 17/21 post).
Learning To Have Difficult Conversations.
It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been in business one month or one year, you must learn early in your entrepreneurial career to initiate difficult conversations with your clients. Be it on budgets, project expectations and scope or simply, communicating a boundary that has been crossed.
One of my favorite quotes by Tim Ferris, author of the 4 Hour work Week, sums this up well: “A person’s success in life can be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
In the same breath, if ever you feel like you’re repeating a cycle of challenges with your clients, it’s highly probable that you also rarely initiate difficult conversations with them.
Important to note though that just because a client appears to be difficult, doesn’t actually mean they are.
You may not want to hear this especially if this is something you’re going through now or been through to your detriment. But there’s always the other side of the story. It could be:
Trust me on this one. I’ve been on both sides of the equation: as the fed up freelancer/ consultant and as the imperfect client.
I talked about alpha women clients yesterday. It could have come across that I don’t like working with them. Not at all. I just understand them a bit more.
The mere fact that we even refer to them as ‘alphas’, means that intrinsically, these women leaders have a lot more to handle and a lot more to lose than the average woman.
They are likely leading formidable teams, their professional reputation and aptitude is on the line 247, notably because the are women fighting for their space in a business world that is primary led by men. Hence their insecurities will regularly show up in your interactions as difficult, draining, inconsistent, erratic, stressful, etc.
That said, it will take many candid conversations throughout your lifetime working with them and generally with all your clients, to restore clarity and resolve any issues you may have.
Question.
When a client ‘ticks you the f*** off’…should you explode? Give them a piece of your mind? Quietly up and leave immediately, after a week, several weeks? Or should you stick around?
That’s up to you, but here are a few things to consider before you decide to say goodbye like Maria in the Sound of Music:
Does the above help? If not and you’re sure you want to exit, tomorrow I’ll share ways to kick that annoying client to the curb.
C’est la vie, non?
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