Dating Again - Give me a Break!

First off, I'm nobody's role model. But, I have accomplished a lot –– considering I have a hell of a lot of flaws.

I just most would say I'm a wild child if they are nice about it - always been and don't know if I will always be but for now, it is what it is. The serious flaws that we have to deal with from our anxiety and past trauma run rampant in all humans. You're just a tiny part of the ecosystem that you're meant to be a part of –– and need to keep working to overcome. To live a beautiful life according to the purpose and balance you desire, you will need to contribute back to society, be kind to yourself –– and help other individuals when you can. It’s a process. Money isn't everything but I get the fear of not having it.

Listen, before I got married, I was single for 10 years. I started off with the quote, I'm not your role model because I don't want you to build up this idea that I'm some emotionally balanced perfect being –– just because I found my match after 25 years of dating. Unfortunately, I still have a lot of flaws. I just know how to manage them well weekly. And I've always been a rebel against society, so I really don't care what anybody thinks of me. Okay, I take that back – except for my loved ones. But in hindsight, my family thinks the world of me, so I'm good in that department. I'm very vocal about my flaws, and I have a solid relationship with them all regardless even they don't agree with my parts of life choices. Life is the glass half full always if you ask me!

I am now 45 years of age, and I got married at 44 for the first time in my life. It can be done. And, again, nor is he perfect. But we'll get to that later. What matters is that I'm happily married now.

There is no magic in the universe that's going to make things happen overnight, BUT there is the magic that can make things happen! IN TIME. And if you believe in yourself and you trust yourself to make changes. Also, be patient with those changes that are going to take place – things can and will get better in your life. You can be stubborn all you want, but that will get you absolutely nowhere except the same place you've been – and that is SINGLE.

We choose our partners based on what we are attracted to. Some people choose their partners because of their money (gold diggers), but they are still attracted to something their partner acquired. Everything triggers back and stimulates through the law of attraction. We are energy beings that vibrate from one person to the next, determining whether we like them or not. This is supposed to happen, and you're supposed to be able to manage it, so you can make greater choices, along with obtaining the network you need to survive (not literally - like food, but you get the drift) in this world. We manage our lives through connection. This goes the same for sex and dating. This goes the same for your workplace. It goes with you like a hand in a glove. It needs to fit.

Love is not supposed to be easy, and if you think that you should just meet someone and it should all work itself out until you get married or move in - you're not ready to date. You are not ready on a level that will manifest into something solid and consistent.

Through different series, I'm going to teach you through stories of my own, the relevance of patience, and why it takes so much time to get from A to B. There is a catch, though. You are going to have to develop an understanding of karma. The saying, “what comes around goes around" most people can agree, and it is important for you to look back on your past and dictate all of your sins or mistakes to understand outcomes in your life. I genuinely believe that we have to pay for those first or at least be forgiven for them because those hurdles from our past come out through our partners in one way or the other. I'll break that down later, but ultimately, just remember that every partner you choose will ultimately affect your current personality and the karma that carries inside the void you feel when you're lonely.

I want you to be successful in love, but you have to be successful with yourself for that to happen. Anybody can land a partner. I'm not going to teach you how to land a partner or tell you how I did it just to “hook up and move in.” It doesn't matter if you land a partner, if the partner treats you horribly or if you are clearly incompatible – what was the point? That would be pointless for you to utilize this journey to learn absolutely nothing other than to marry someone just to numb the loneliness. It is not a curse to be lonely, and it's certainly not going to kill you to be alone for a bit to clear some stuff up. There are too many people in this world that can help you keep busy, but ultimately, you need connection and we will work on that together. We just need to figure out how to get you in a manner where you understand that a healthy connection is more important than just some connection. It's like that old saying, you get what you pay for.

"Stop buying cheap, people. It makes you cheap!"

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