"A Date Is Not A Business Interview" Things to avoid when on a first date
I see this with a lot of my clients, specifically the successful men in business. They think that dating is just like business. They approach their dates thinking that they can just sit there and bombard someone with all these questions. They think that by doing this, it is going to help them secure another date.
Nobody wants to be on a business interview on a date. You want a date to be fun, in the moment, and enjoy the other person’s company, in order to get to know them. You can ask them questions about themselves, but getting really specific isn’t probably going to work.
For instance, I know some men and women will really get into it, for example “How many kids do you want, when do you want to be married, how many years from now?” It's just too much. It scares the other person away.
It's great that you want to get to know the other person. You can ask them a few questions, and definitely connect with them. Just don't do it like a drill. Do it with authenticity and care! Let the questions naturally flow and come up as you navigate conversation. Get to know them as a person! If there are certain things that you want to know about them that you didn't find out on the first date, then that means that you should definitely have a second date.
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4 年Happy Holidays Jacqueline
General Manager at Creative Solutions
4 年In addition to what you said, it would be fun, in my opinion when one person feels he or she is going to be bombarded with personal questions to make it playful and fun and turn the table around. For example, I would say “hey hey I hope this is not an interrogation. Since it’s the case, how about we limit the questions to three personal, three provocative and three daring ... something like that”