Having exactly the kind of Christmas you would like..

My inbox is flooding with emails about how to survive the holidays. What a funny thing that is. I mean, I know that family time, high expectations and traditions that might not feel like yours, can become a volatile mix. But is seems like we might be forgetting something important:

We are the creators of our experience. We have a lot of choices in how we choose to act.

And we can bring in all the soul we want.

When we let our soul speak, and listen to that soft voice inside of us, we can create a holiday season where we feel wrapped in tender love. Our own tender love.

This time of year, the winter solstice, is an invitation to go inside. To connect with our core. And from there, to rejoice in what is here, and celebrate the return of the light.

When we are busy thinking about what to make for Christmas desert, presents or who is invited for what, it’s easy to forget to go inside. But that is where the magic is.

Take a moment, right now, to feel your breath.

To feel your feet.

And ask yourself: When the holidays are exactly as I’d like them to be, they would be like what?

Like a cosy fire in a dark and stormy night? Like a big party, with light flashing and music playing? Like a quiet walk on the moon, looking out on Earth from afar?

What would it be like for you, if it was exactly as you’d like?

For me, when I first wrote about this over at the Huffington Post, I felt it would be like sacred time around a fire. Warm and shared. Time for reflection and songs. Time for connection with my loved ones.

So it helps me understand why putting a lot of attention into practical dinner preparations is not the first thing I want to do. (I’ll do it, as other people really like a tasty desert.)

And it made me think about how I can add this sacred fire to my days. - And to be clear, this is not just having a real fire - although that might just have started to manifest itself. It’s about that energy of that sacred fire, and how I can start adding that to my experience.

I knew what I want to focus on.

Too often, we forget to ask ourselves that soul-based question: what would I like to have happen?

All of our experiences start on the inside.

So take this opportunity to start blowing your magical breath of life into what you would like to have happen.

Know what matters for your soul, for you.

And since I first wrote this, guess what? Without effort, a cozy fire ritual in our backyard has taken shape. A Christmas Eve gathering of some dear friends, with our children. We will be welcoming in the light together. It makes my heart sing and my soul buzz with excitement.

And if you would like to learn more about how to tap into soul-knowing, for yourself and others:

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I wish you a magical Christmas, exactly as you’d like it to be....