daring to not abandon ourselves

I think one of the most daring things we can do as humans is to not abandon ourselves.

Because it’s so easy to abandon ourselves in little ways all the time - by not sharing our opinions, not asking for what we want, hiding the wilder parts of ourselves.

Our brains just want us to stay small, safe. The primitive part of brain thinks following the status quo - not pushing the envelope - is the "right" thing to do. We worry what others think, telling ourselves that we shouldn't take up too much space or be too "out there."

But when we abandon ourselves - even in those tiny moments - we teach ourselves that we aren't trustworthy.

I think this is so natural and so ingrained in us, that we often miss the mini moments of abandonment. But they build until we can't define what WE want.

I certainly used to feel like I wasn't really sure who I was, what I wanted. And it wasn't because anyone else did anything wrong - it was just because I wasn't used to asking myself questions, I didn't know how to find - let alone trust - my inner voice.

But now, I know my inner voice well. Sometimes I still abandon her in those small ways, but I'm working every day to listen and trust her more.

In doing that, I ask myself all the time - what do I want?

And that question has changed everything. Sometimes I want a dance party. Alone. In my basement. Sometimes I want tea or a speedy walk around the block. Sometimes I want a hug or a nap. Sometimes I just check on my plants' roots - we can't have any more root rot in this house ?? Sometimes I text my friends and clients appreciation love notes.

So I wonder, what might change if you ask yourself more often - what do you want?

And if you're feeling lost on figuring that out, know I've been there too. And I'm here for you when you want help. Just message me.