Dare or Doubt: Challenging Your Grief

In life, we are presented with choices, and one of the most transformative questions we can ask ourselves is: Is this working for me? When we face the heavy emotions of grief and loss, it may feel as though we are stripped of choice. The weight of it can be so all-encompassing that we resign to the notion that it is what it is.

While it’s true that loss demands acceptance of new circumstances, it doesn’t mean we are powerless when it comes to our emotions. Emotions are energy in motion, and they operate at different frequencies of vibration. Studies, including research publicly shared by Stanford University, show that emotions such as grief, depression, fear, and powerlessness are among the lowest vibrations. Conversely, emotions like knowledge, love, and appreciation exist at the highest vibrational levels, promoting a sense of empowerment and hope.

As a certified end-of-life coach, my work with grief recovery programs and personal testimonies has affirmed this truth: when we choose to focus our thoughts, our emotions naturally align. It isn’t always easy—grief is a natural ebb and flow—but we do have the ability to shift our perspective.

The key is to dare to think differently. When we choose good thoughts, even when doubt tries to creep in, we ignite empowerment. Empowerment is one of the most elevated vibrations a human can experience, and it holds the power to transform not only our emotions but our entire outlook on life.

So ask yourself: Is this working for me?

If you find yourself trapped in a low vibration—a space where grief feels paralyzing and hopelessness takes over—consider whether staying in that state is serving you. While it’s natural to sit with grief for a time, there comes a moment when you must decide: Do I dare to change my focus, or will I continue to doubt my ability to rise?

Shifting focus is a practice, not perfection. Each time you choose to elevate your thoughts, even momentarily, you build a stronger habit. Over time, this creates a kind of muscle memory that allows you to recover more quickly from emotional lows. This isn’t about dismissing your feelings or forcing positivity—it’s about allowing yourself to move toward healing one step at a time.

Grief is a journey, and it will ebb and flow. But with every choice to dare rather than doubt, you reclaim your power. So, I challenge you to ask yourself regularly:

Is this working for me?

And if the answer is no, dare to choose something better. Dare to choose a better thought, a better focus, a better outcome. Empower yourself, one moment at a time, and let that empowerment guide you to the higher vibrations of love, appreciation, and healing. You have a choice. Dare to make it.

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