The Danger of Rationalizations

Rationalizations are a common response within our internal dialogue. They are actually a defense mechanism, according to psychology. We use them to justify our reasoning, behaviors, and actions.

Not all rationalizations are harmful. Sometimes, they are the boost we need to feel better about a situation or ourselves. They are a coping strategy, but an overreliance on them can be dangerous. They are dangerous when they are a frequent pattern and act as an obstacle to growth. In my new book,?The In-Between: Life in the Micro, I had to confront my rationalizations, as they were keeping me in a bubble state.

The book focuses on being more intentional in the micro, which are all the small moments in life. It means being present without looking too far backward or forward. Breaking free from a bubble state, which is the obsession with the macro, requires you to examine rationalizations.

When Rationalizations Become Dangerous

We all rationalize, and it’s not inherently bad until it becomes part of your identity. When you’re so afraid to face the truth or change, rationalization retells the story in a way that makes you more comfortable. The bubble state seems safe, but it’s not.

When rationalization becomes a problem, it supplants our gut feelings and intentions. When we don’t act as we know we should, we use this tactic to ease guilt and accountability. It begins a spiral that can have devastating consequences.

Rationalizations Become Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

When we are in moments of emotional pain and turmoil, rationalization often swoops in during this vulnerable time. We know what we should and want to do. Yet, we don’t because of the discomfort it can bring. So, rationalizations become self-fulfilling prophecies.

So, we don’t do anything or get it wrong. It leaves us in much distress as we replay scenarios of indecision and regret. These are all things I encountered in my own journey. After years of being really good at rationalizing, I came to the realization that I needed to change.

Rationalizing made sense at the moment, but I was ignoring my authentic values and gut instincts. It was all about avoiding situations or feelings. Instead of being able to enjoy and engage in the micro, I was overwhelmed.

Awareness and Embracing the Micro Thwart the Destruction of Rationalizing

What I learned was that the micro creates opportunities for connection, engagement, joy, and empathy. If we stay in the present and work on awareness of self and others, we can relegate rationalization to have much less power.

Our own minds have the potential to either hurt or support us. For the latter, we have to admit that rationalizations aren’t helping us. It’s a big pivot that requires us to be true to our core values. It’s never an easy evolution, but it’s necessary for us to reach our potential.

If rationalizations are hindering you, explore the concept and many others for living a more meaningful life by reading my book. Start the journey toward living in the in-between.