Dance With Your Fears

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about fear is that they need to overcome it.?

I don't think that you'll ever get over your fear, but I do believe that you can find a way to work with your fear and even dance with it.??

Recently I gave a speech to an audience of about a thousand. I had done this before so it wasn't new to me, but I still feared all that could go wrong up until I actually got on the stage. Once I was on stage, the fear melted away.?

What I find interesting about my observations is that at the moment that fear should have been present most, it wasn't. Being on stage should have been the only moment where I experienced fear, yet I didn't.?

Will Smith tells a story about the fear he had around skydiving for the first time. He woke up numerous times the night before thinking about all the terrible things that could happen. He was filled with fear driving from the hotel room and terrified while he was getting strapped on the flight up. He was still consumed by fear as he walked to the edge of the plane believing that he was staring death in the face.

But as he flew through the air, he felt complete bliss. Again, this should have been the moment his fear peaked, yet it wasn't present. Will said, "The point of maximum danger is the point of minimum fear."?

The lesson in these two stories is profound. Can you see how we spend most of our lives worrying about something that may never happen? In fact, psychologists have found that 85% of what we worry about never happens.?

If this fear won't go away, how can we use fear for our benefit instead of allowing it to cripple us???

We can start to understand our fears, why we feel them, and then begin to move through them.??

Fear is just a physical manifestation of your comfort zone. If you don't feel fear, it means that you are in your comfort zone. If you want to break out of your comfort zone, continue to grow, and expand, you're going to feel fear. You're going to have to dance with your fear.?

The difference between someone who is successful and someone who isn't? A successful person feels their fears but does it anyway. There is always a choice. What do you choose??

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