Daily Wisdom 29
By Alejandro González Rangel

Daily Wisdom 29

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THE DAILY STOIC

By Ryan Holiday

PERFECTION IS THE ENEMY OF ACTION?

“We don’t abandon our pursuits because we despair of ever perfecting them.” —EPICTETUS

Psychologists speak of cognitive distortions—exaggerated thinking patterns that have a destructive impact on the life of the patient. One of the most common is known as all-or-nothing thinking (also referred to as splitting). Examples of this include thoughts like:?

  • If you’re not with me, you’re against me.?
  • So-and-so is all good/bad.?
  • Because this wasn’t a complete success, it is a total failure.?

This sort of extreme thinking is associated with depression and frustration. How could it not be? Perfectionism rarely begets perfection—only disappointment. Pragmatism has no such hang-ups. It’ll take what it can get. That’s what Epictetus is reminding us. We’re never going to be perfect—if there is even such a thing. We’re human, after all. Our pursuits should be aimed at progress, however little that it’s possible for us to make.

THE DAILY LAWS

By Robert Greene

Anchor Their Ego?

Think of people’s ego and vanity as a kind of front. When they are attacking you, and you don’t know why, it is often because you have inadvertently threatened their ego, their sense of importance in the world. Whenever possible, you must work to make people feel secure about themselves. Use whatever works: subtle flattery, a gift, an unexpected promotion, an offer of alliance, a presentation of you and they as equals, a mirroring of their ideas and values. All these things will make them feel anchored in their frontal position relative to the world, lowering their defenses and making them like you. Secure and comfortable, they are now set up for persuasion. This is particularly devastating with a target whose ego is delicate.?

Daily Law: When people feel secure about themselves, when you anchor the ego they front, they are disarmed and maneuverable.

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