Curses

Curses

STEVE HAUPTMAN STEVE HAUPTMAN

STEVE HAUPTMAN

Author at MONKEYTRAPS: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop (book 1 of the Monkeytrap Series).

发布日期: 2018年2月12日
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I don't believe in magical curses. 

I do believe in psychological ones.

As they appear in therapy, psychological curses are false beliefs absorbed in childhood by a kid too innocent to know better.

You're stupid, his father tells him over and over. So he believes it. He may be bright as Einstein. No matter. He'll start to feel, think and behave like a stupid person. Because that's what dad told him he is.

The world is unsafe. People are not to be trusted. Relationships will disappoint you. I run into such curses every day.

You're not enough. You won't succeed. You're unloveable. These are among the most poisonous curses of all.

How to lift such a curse?

Insight usually isn't enough. That's because insights (Ah, I see how I came to believe that) usually come to the Adult part of the personality.

And it's the Child part that's cursed.

What the Child requires is a corrective emotional experience. 

The kid who feels unsafe needs safe relationships. The kid who feels unlovable needs to feel loved.

Without such experiences, curses can last lifetimes.


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