The Curse of Self-Rejection! - and some ideas on how to beat it!
Stefan Lindegaard
I help sharpen your leadership approach, build high-performance teams and enhance corporate innovation through new, original tools like Team Dynamics Cards and the Gap Map Overview.
Self-rejection is a form of self-sabotage that often occurs when we start to doubt ourselves and feel we are not up for for the task, challenges and opportunities we face. It also shows itself when we engage in the dangerous pursuit of perfection.?
The sense it leaves people with is that they are not deserving or worthy. This is not a good thing and to beat this, you should look into a calibration of your mindset to help you start a positive circle.
First, let’s identify some signs of self-rejection which include:
Get your head up, trust in yourself and aim higher!
So you don’t think you are worthy of that new job or promotion? Go for it anyways! You can be sure that many of your bosses were not ready themselves in their days and yet they made it.
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So you don’t think they will like your ideas on this new opportunity or that nagging challenge? Share it and see what happens. Be a curious learner, build on their feedback and get even better.
Your article is quite good but maybe not fully ready to go? Remember that perfection is more of an enemy than a friend!
The message is: Don’t stop yourself. Others might do this for you but you should not do this yourself although it is of course a good thing to be realistic - or a positive/realist as I like to describe it.?
In many ways, the curse of self-rejection is another example that good as well as bad things often start with mindset. So, do you deliberately work with and enhance your mindset in order to start the positive snowball effect??
Bachelor of Commerce - BCom from Nizam College at Hyderabad Public School
2 年Awesome share. Many people undergo this malady. ??????
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2 年Stefan, this is wonderful stuff, thank you! Perfectionism is the enemy indeed. Putting anything out there in the world is like taking a vaccine: it actually hurts to know you're exposing your imperfections, but it builds up your tolerance for being more real with yourself and the world. Even now I feel a slight twinge, knowing I have put out imperfect stuff; but I tell myself it's like the soreness in my shoulder I got after a Shingrix shingles vaccine recently. Better a little pain and soreness now, than total self-rejection! (this metaphor itself is imperfect, but there you have it--this is a comment that illustrates itself, imperfectly. If you are able to read this, it's because I haven't deleted it! ; )