Cultivating the ‘C’ word.

As a leader, have you ever thought: “We need MORE conflict on our team”?

I did. Learn why, and what happened when we did.

Why did I want more conflict on my team?

I know what you’re thinking. I spend my life trying to reduce and run away from conflict, why would I want to amp it up??

The truth is, a nice culture, can be too… nice.

This leads to:

• Difficult feedback not being delivered.
• Challenges not faced.
• Lack of accountability and ownership to the rest of the team.

ALL important for a culture that consistently performs to the highest level.

At More Happi we’re aiming for kind, generous and high-performing.

Last week the More Happi team took part in a transformational group coaching session with expert leadership coach and facilitator Anise Frost . We discussed the many pros and cons - and what makes conflict successful, healthy and yes (!) even FUN.

First up, we explored WHY we avoid conflict.

• Feels personal Can upset the other person.
• Feels like a power imbalance.
• Not enough time or know how to do it well.
• Concern that it will go wrong.

Then we talked about how to bring a ‘healthy’ conflict into the day-to-day.

Anise introduced us to her simple 5-step conflict resolution process (??) and has generously granted me the power to share it with you too.

It goes like this.

Step 1: Define the Issue

• Express what you think the conflict is about. Give it from your perspective.

Step 2: Listen Actively

• With full attention
• Acknowledge the other's feelings about the conflict
• Seek to understand their point of view
• Empathy

Step 3: Brainstorm Solutions (It’s both of you against the problem)

• Be creative and open-minded
• Strive for win/win solutions
• Consider each suggestion without judgement
• Explore each one before deciding the best course of action

Step 4: Negotiate and Compromise

• Discuss proposed solutions
• Try to find a middle ground
• Find a mutually acceptable agreement

Step 5: Agree on a Resolution and Follow-Up

• Ensure both parties are in agreement
• Be clear about roles moving on
• Document resolution and tasks
• Establish a follow-up timeline

Coach lab questions for your fortnight:

• What impact is NOT having difficult conversations having on the success of your business/team?
• How have you successfully managed conflict in the past? (What did you learn?)
• What are you avoiding saying that needs to be said?
• How could you bring more healthy conflict into your processes?

A little bit about me (your guide)

For those of you I haven't met yet, I'm Ashleigh, founder of More Happi :) Nice to meet you! ??

I’ve worked across 9 industry start-up sectors, ranging from fashion trend forecasting, to wool, tampons, sustainable lightbulbs and more.

I trained to be a coach in 2020, after over 20 years in Product, Marketing and Leadership roles.

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