CRUSH CONFLICT

CRUSH CONFLICT

Relationships, both in the workplace and in our personal lives, can be complicated.?But do they have to be??Wouldn’t it be a lot less stressful and more enjoyable to have less conflict and more harmony in all our relationships?

Sounds somewhat idealistic, yet it is possible.?Studies have shown that up to 82% of people are averse to conflict.?To create better relationships with others (both inside and outside of our professional lives), and manage our conflict avoidance, let’s start with the biggest conflict catalysts in all relationships.

CONFLICT CATALYSTS:

1.??????Trust – without trust, the ability to resolve conflict and have the most optimal relationships is impossible

2.??????Lies Through Omission – leaving out important information to hide the truth (this is as bad, if not worse, than overt lies)

3.??????Lack of Transparency – behavioral studies indicate that 95% of people struggle to speak up about their concerns with others

4.??????Sub-optimal Communication – the failure in getting your message across positively coupled with the willingness to truly listen and understand the other person’s point of view (especially when it differs from our own)

5.??????Personality Differences – the lens with which each person receives information, provides information, and needs information is unique based on their own personal life experiences.?These differences easily lead to conflict in relationships

There are so many more underlying contributors to conflict in relationships, however, these noted above are the top offenders.?Lack of trust, lying, inauthentic behavior, poor communication, lack of listening and personality differences can all be dealt with properly if we really want to have better and long-lasting relationships with others.

CONQUER RELATIONSHIP CONFLICTS:

1.??????Value - When you value another person, and the relationship, you show it, and this creates trust in your relationships.?You don’t lie overtly, or through omission.?You are free to be transparent because you value (and know you are valued) the other person’s thoughts and feelings.?You work on your communication skills (tone, message, body language) and listen without judgement.?You listen to learn.?You listen to understand.?When you value another person, your personality differences are understood and even talked about.?You use empathy to relate to how the other person feels.?

2.??????Validation - Validation in a relationship is?a way of communicating with another person that the relationship is important to you and solid, even when you disagree on issues. When a relationship is important to you, authentically important, then the conflict catalysts don’t stand a chance of weakening (or worse, destroying) what and who is important to you.

Now is the time, to take the time, so you are making the most of your time here on this planet.?Nobody can do the work for you.?Cheers to a more conflict-free you!?Until next time!?

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Deidre Koppelman - Founder & CEO - PEAR Core Solutions, Inc. – www.pearcoresolutions.com