Creating the Conditions for Rest
Kara Hardin
Empowering High Performers to Shift Their Relationship With Work | CEO of The Practice Lab | Psychotherapist & Speaker
This month I want to unpack together a simple, infuriating experience: we work hard and wait all week for downtime. Maybe it’s an evening, a Saturday morning, imagine even an entire Sunday. Maybe we are grabbing brunch with friends, playing with our kids, shuttling between plans. Whatever it is, the time comes, and we feel: off, annoyed, restless, unable to settle into our bones and just enjoy. We aren’t present. We are not working, but we don’t feel settled about anything we are doing. This month I am asking: What’s up with that and how could it be different?
I have a couple of different theories about what is happening, and what practices can help. Brace yourself, some are pretttyyyy radical (well, just one, and it’s not a cold shower so it’ll be ok).
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There is a pressure to make every moment the best ever, that we Strivers love to live into with the fullest of hearts. I don’t just drink coffee. I drink extra hot, unsweetened, oat milk lattes, out of my favourite ceramic mug that’s weighted just so. The beans are from a local roastery and we keep them stored in a beautiful, airtight container. You get it. The incredible ways in which we are all taught to maximize even the smallest of comforts, makes the smallest of discomforts feel like mortal failure.?
So next time you want to practice enjoying the time you aren’t working, give yourself permission to practice: being present, shifting your state, and feeling discomfort (knowing it’s ok).?
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1 年Funny, i seem to notice I have a problem with something and then you tackle it shortly thereafter. This discontent when I finally hit my decompression time is infuriating since the discontent stops me from properly decompressing!