Create My Reality?!
Martin Kettelhut, PhD - Clarity Catalyst
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Martin Kettelhut, PhD - Clarity Catalyst
To fulfilling even more of your truth
Talking to an old friend yesterday, he said, “You’ll have to help me to believe that I can create my reality, Doc; after all, society expects me to make money, to pay taxes, and I’ve got a wife and kids who won’t let me just up and create a different reality.”
I remember saying to this same friend about 25 years ago: I’m going to do something I enjoy for a living, and I’m going to do it with minimal stress. I'm not saying it happened overnight, but with each incremental choice-point, I created a coaching practice perfectly suited to my talents and temperament, a good income in 20 hours a week, 35% of the year in the tropics, 65% in the mountains, and I give generously to my community.
So I asked to my friend yesterday, “Who created the reality you claim not to be able to change? Didn’t YOU chose to go into financial services, wasn’t it YOU who chose to marry Elizabeth (his wife), and you who chose to have three children? Aren’t YOU the author of your life?”
It’s never too late; you can realize the power to alter your reality at any point, even on your deathbed. Everything you've experienced thus far has readied you to move beyond mechanical reaction to creative response. You don’t ever go it alone either; in fact, you cannot but create your reality in relation: to friends and family, to the firm and community, to God and country.
“Yes, but...” my friend said, “I didn’t make the industry become so regulated, I didn’t give my wife a chronic lung problem, I didn’t create my son’s reading problem!”
True, I said, you don’t create the facts or circumstances; what you create are the thoughts about them, which then quickly become the facts for you. Every little thing, like eating my peas and getting to bed at a decent hour, I could see as dull and hard. However, because I see life as a delightful adventure and an opportunity to make a difference, I'm having a rich and rewarding experience.
"Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change," writes Wayne Dyer.
Even brutal moments. Think of stretching before morning exercise, or having to tell a client you messed up, or giving birth for heaven’s sake! If you can’t invent another way to see the tough moments, at least recognize that God’s purpose is being fulfilled (beyond our limited comprehension).
The key is to know what purpose you are serving. Here is a choice-point:
If you’d like to take an application for the Entrepreneur’s Mastermind Group I’m leading starting in May, please reply to this email. Even if you decide not to join us, the application questions will enlighten you as to where the real work lies vis-à-vis creating your reality. A select group of us are going on a six-month journey (using zoom conferencing). Central themes are:
- Leadership, it’s not what they say
- Act like a CEO (rather than salesperson)
- Handle once-and-for-all that recurring stumbling block to success
- Live a life of your design