COVID-19's PARTING GIFT: Top 10 Tips for Leading Well in 2021

As business leaders reflect on the last 18 months, and work to optimize their leadership behaviors for a post-pandemic world, there are practical, economical and impactful ways to prioritize wellbeing for themselves and their teams. The only potential cost is ego and a genuine willingness to operate differently.

As the year comes to a close, and the season of reflection is upon us, let’s be honest: 2020 has been a doozy for most everyone.?While there have been some clear winners like Amazon or the manufacturers of toilet paper and baking flour, the pandemic has deeply affected us all, with twists and turns in both our personal and professional lives.?And perhaps most compellingly, the lines between each have blurred, at times thrusting our whole, vulnerable, imperfect selves into the spotlight, even before we had tools to cope.?

I can relate, first-hand.

I started off the year in a job that I loved, a city that I loved, working for a multi-billion dollar company that I loved. We had green-lights to grow and continue our truly purposeful work with the potential to impact the health and wellbeing of millions of people around the world. By June, I found myself participating in a layoff affecting 1300+ of my colleagues including myself and my entire organization, and we all had to part ways with love. I ended up back in my home state of Maine, eventually resuming operations of my consultancy, only this time with a lot less resources, and my own case of COVID-19 was just the icing on the cake. Still, I count my blessings, as the year has been much worse for so many.

The irony is that I have never been more bullish about the business or practice of wellness or the role it now has to play on a global stage, and as it turns out, I’m not the only one. Thierry Malleret , economist and author of COVID-19: THE GREAT RESET , reminds us that when something like wellness - which the Global Wellness Institute (GWI) defines as “the active pursuit of activities, choices and lifestyles that lead to a state of holistic health” - becomes more rare or scarce, the greater is its appeal. And wellbeing – that outcome we’re all trying to achieve as a result of our wellness habits – can easily become a mirage in the desert.

The reality is that the “American Dream” and the science of wellbeing are in fact, in conflict with one another, and we now have the somewhat unexpected opportunity in 2021 to realign the two, if not better help them to live in concert together. And the evidence is clear: it’s not the pursuit of padded bank accounts or career strata or quarterly earnings that make your home or company a great place to live or work; these pursuits can actually negatively impact your productivity and happiness over time. Instead, practicing acts of kindness and gratitude, making time for meaningful social connection, and caring for our own personal wellness while championing the wellbeing of others, is what actually does the trick (and if you don’t believe me, just ask expert Laurie Santos , professor of Yale University’s The Science of Wellbeing; a course within which over 3 million people have now enrolled)[i] .?

So what does this all mean for leaders in 2021??And what can we all do to effectively transform our businesses with less resources, and still care for ourselves, our families and colleagues along the way??

"Every person has the innate capacity for wellbeing. When we lead from an inner foundation of wellbeing, we bring forward greater potentials in people, generosity and trust in the work culture, and wiser decisions for entire organizations and ecosystems." - Renee Moorefield, CEO, Wisdom Works

In an effort to answer these questions, following are my TOP 10 TIPS FOR LEADING WELL IN 2021, based on my experience leading and advising the wellness strategies of private and public organizations, the science and business of wellbeing, and the recalibrating events of 2020.

1. Identify your STOP LIST and champion it. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a Fortune 500 CEO, or the leader of your own jam-packed household, we’ve all been asked to do more with less (less resources, less room, less time, less patience ;). In most business cases, the reductions have been dramatic, calling for a need to simplify in order to stabilize. In other words, the single-best thing you can do to ease the strain on your organization and to positively impact the wellbeing of those looking to you for guidance, is to identify what you and your teammates will STOP doing in order to leave more space for what is truly important and impactful.?Best-in-class leaders will not only help to lead their organization through this process, but they will also communicate and publish the collective outcome for all to see.?
2. Understand the role that FEAR and TRUST play in your organization. This is where humility comes in because you have to be brave enough to assess your unique situation, ask for help if you need it (often from an objective, third-party), accept the answers you receive (even if you disagree with them), and take swift, corrective action.?Michael C. Bush , CEO at Great Place to Work – a company that has conducted extensive research around workplace culture in 2020 - recently reminded me that “fear stops innovation and makes people feel and think small.”?Moreover, the absence of trust is a deal-breaker for meaningful job satisfaction, particularly between employees and their immediate supervisors as employees tend to leave their bosses, not their jobs or companies.
3. Lead with LOVE.?The opposite of fear - from which ego often leads - is love.?Earlier this year, I went on an odyssey of love, so to speak, to find a beacon of hope that could potentially guide us through 2020. And before you complete that eye-roll, trust me when I tell you: I was suspect. Much like the science and business of wellness (now a multi-trillion dollar, global economy), I needed to find evidence that love could truly make strategic impact.?That is, if companies institutionalized love?– a supreme form of positivity – could they actually impact their bottom lines??The short answer, and only after digging into the successful business practices of companies like Subaru, Southwest Airlines and even Prudential Real Estate, is YES. You can read more details here , but what this ultimately means for leaders is this: when the going gets tough, and you have to make difficult business decisions in the heat of the moment, ask yourself: “what would love do”??You will be surprised how this simple question can calm your brain’s amygdala (home of our flight and fight response), engage your frontal lobe and have you championing humanity and grace over callous judgement or panic.?More importantly, you stand a better chance of treating people like humans, not robots, and seeing their whole selves shine at work.
4. Invite WHOLE SELVES to Work. Like it or not, 2020 has changed how we all work, see, identify and empathize with one another, and we can’t unsee that, nor should we. Remember what the start of quarantine looked like for you and your colleagues? Zoom at home, often in spaces not designed for work, dogs barking, kids struggling, all while you were trying to conduct business as normal; only it wasn’t. And in many instances - usually during a heated team meeting or important client pitch when a pet yelped or the wireless went down - we were uncomfortably reminded that our whole selves were on display for the world to see. And now, the hats we have historically hung outside the office while we pretended not to struggle or flourish in roles left unsaid on our business cards (i.e., mother, father, caretaker, you name it), hang front and center in the living rooms within which we all now work. They can’t be put on mute any longer.?It’s time we acknowledge them, even celebrate them, and allow room for our whole self, and the whole selves of others, to be present at work.
5. Make wellness about CULTURE, not programs. ?Speaking of culture, companies are still championing the quality of their workplace wellness “perks and programs” including things like flexible work schedules, unlimited PTO, access to healthy food & beverage, free subscriptions to mindfulness or fitness apps, and so forth, versus focusing on the quality of life that their workplace cultures have the potential to foster. Sure, you can offer the world’s best wellness resources but if your colleagues do not feel like they have the permission to use them (i.e., anyone feel chained to their desks in 2020?) or are expected to be accessible at all hours of the day, or if they do not feel included in their workplace, or are struggling with issues of fear and trust with their supervisors, WELL, said “perks and programs” will be dead on arrival.?So, here’s a hint:?lead by example and/or find someone who can with authenticity.?People will notice and over time, they will believe you enough to follow suit.
6. Model, Set and Respect BOUNDARIES. It’s amazing to me how many leaders still get this wrong, particularly those who claim to make the wellbeing of their employees a company priority. Related to #3 above, a great first step towards modeling the right kind of behavior that stands to generate a well culture, is to set and respect boundaries by first claiming your own. In fact, the best leaders today proactively manage their calendars to allow time to work out, reflect and/or be mindful each day, while also finding ways to socially connect with loved ones, disconnect from digital devices and here’s a big one: actually celebrate (versus hide or indefinitely accrue) vacation time. The very best leaders of tomorrow will take these actions a step further by publicly sharing how they care for their own wellbeing, what kind of habits enable them to show up as the best versions of themselves, share stories and pictures of recent holidays or vacation, and then encourage teammates to regularly do the same.
7. Normalize discussions of MENTAL HEALTH. Our friends at the Global Wellness Institute recently released new research on mental health including the important distinction between mental wellness and mental illness, signaling the need for us to ultimately understand and resource both. While companies have typically provided third-party resources or hotlines for individuals struggling with clinical, mental health conditions, they have a long way to go before they normalize the existence of these conditions among the workplace. Providing spaces or platforms for colleagues to take mental health breaks largely ignores those people who struggle with depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD, and other common conditions on a daily basis, or those who have new conditions sparked by major life events such as divorce, bereavement or, say, a global pandemic.?We all need to do better job acknowledging and normalizing the full spectrum of mental health needs in our workplaces - in our lives - and it starts at the top.
8. Make TRAVEL SPECIAL again. This is a two-sided coin for both my friends and colleagues in the travel, tourism and hospitality industry – all gravely impacted by the pandemic - as well as leaders seeking opportunities to manage costs and business recovery, not to mention the health and wellbeing of their colleagues.?Simply put, we have the opportunity to make travel special again, as recently discussed with my good friend, Carolyn Kremins, President at Skift . We talked about the future of wellbeing in a COVID world, and agreed that in some ways, the world was spinning out of control before the pandemic hit, and many of us road warriors, regardless of industry, began to dread travel. Now, leaders have the opportunity to rethink the necessity of travel, which will likely result in less frequent trips for their families and colleagues in the short-term, but potentially more valued, impactful trips in the long-term.?Why??Because everyone from select serve to luxury to wellness travel brands now have a rare, second chance to make a first impression, proving that they are not only clean and safe, but memorable, trusted establishments worthy of consumers’ life-long loyalty at perhaps, a higher price.
9. Prioritize PURPOSE over profit.?It’s no secret that having a sense of purpose actually contributes to living longer, richer and more meaningful lives.?Okinawans call it ikigai and Nicoyans, found on a peninsula in Costa Rica, call it plan de vida.?No matter what you call it, these two Blue Zones , among several others found in Greece, Italy and California, all share one thing in common:?an average addition of (7) years life expectancy just because they have a clear idea of their purpose, or better said, the reason why they wake up every morning[i] .?And guess what??Purpose applies to our whole selves.?Leaders among us can realize a competitive advantage over time should they, and their companies, choose to align themselves with a purpose and exist for reasons other than profits.[ii] ?Once identified, championing that purpose via a well-articulated brand and operating strategy (much like Patagonia has done as just one example) is essential.
10. Treat WELLBEING, INCLUSION & DIVERSITY as one mindset.?On a much more serious note, one of the most impactful lessons I learned this year actually came full circle for me when I witnessed the devastating end to George Floyd’s life, followed by the subsequent, awkward frenzy by organizations of all kinds to hire leaders, and reexamine their I&D policies. The reality is that inclusive leadership – inclusive citizenship – is required for wellbeing to thrive in companies and communities at large.?Our friends at PwC echoed this finding as part of their Well-being Learning Project , and while their study was commercial in nature, one can easily see how it can be societal in practice. The time has come for leaders to foster a dialogue among those responsible for bringing their wellbeing and I&D strategies to life as they are natural, if not essential, teammates.

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On a personal note, I can now honestly say, with the benefit of this year-end reflection, that 2020 has indeed been one of the greatest gifts of my life. I’ve identified my stop list, better understood the role that fear and trust have played in my career, understood that well workplaces actually foster happier, more inclusive cultures and societies, reclaimed my boundaries, LOVED like my life depended on it, celebrated my whole, flawed-self, invited a regular discussion of mental health into my own life (with thanks to my therapist), giddily and safely traveled to a warm, beach-side destination for my first trip in 7 months, and reminded myself that my purpose – to help people live well – has never been more important or inspiring than it is to me today.

My hope for 2021 is that you all embrace these lessons of 2020 and start the New Year off as gratefully as I’ve ended mine.

With love, Mia.

About the Author:?Mia Kyricos is a globally-respected thought-leader in the business of wellness, wellbeing and hospitality with a specialty in brand strategy and communications. She has helped to develop, operate, and market wellness-driven strategies, brands and facilities across 100+ countries working for industry leaders including Hyatt Hotels Corporation, Spafinder Wellness, Inc, Starwood Hotels & Resorts Worldwide, EXOS, Canyon Ranch Health Resorts and Kyricos & Associates, LLC, her own strategic advisory firm. Recently named the "Global Leading Woman in Wellness", her work and expertise has been featured in popular business and trade publications including?The New York Times, CN Traveller, Smart Money, Skift, Travel & Leisure, Real Simple, Hotel Executive, Travel Weekly, Spa Business, Market Watch?and more. She simply aspires to help people live well, and given her latest research, to love more.

[i] coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being

[i] weforum.org/agenda/2017/06/changing-the-way-america-eats-moves-and-connects-one-town-at-a-time/

[ii] thriveglobal.com/stories/purpose-over profit/#:~:text=Businesses%20that%20value%20long%2Dterm,from%20others%2C%20rather%20than%20profits.