Courage and you

Courage and you

I think a part of being a woman is all about our conditioning.

We’re conditioned to want to please people when you’re growing up, not speak up and ultimately sit there quietly, looking neat, toeing the line.?

The biggest thing that we’re conditioned not to do I feel is to fail.?

Heaven forbid what would happen then.

At no point are we encouraged to show courage on a daily basis. The courage to step forward and take on risk.

The idea that rocking the status quo could possibly be a good idea......

It takes courage to just be you and it takes courage to want or desire something different from the life we’re living at the moment.

Without having to please those around us or fear their judgement.

The problem is that we’re conditioned to feel that failure is bad so many times we just don’t try in case it doesn’t work.

But, as Anais Nin said, ‘life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage’. If you knew your life could expand, how much more courageous would you want to be?

Courage is a habit so get in the habit of being more courageous.?

For me, It isn’t about big flamboyant displays of bravery but about the small choices and decisions we make on a daily basis.

Choosing the more difficult, more fearful route despite your thoughts holding you back. You can choose to do this.?

Fear is after all? just chemicals flooding your brain.

Do you know more about yourself then these chemicals?

Instead, do something that engages your prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that deals with reason).

This means you’re effectively distracting yourself from the fear by say reading or working.?

In order to be more courageous start small. If you’re given the option of 2 things and one is slightly more daunting, why not try it. This applies to decisions as well.?

Be aware of when you’re afraid.

You can take your thoughts around it and re-label them. For example, ‘I’m afraid’ becomes ‘I’m having a thought that I’m afraid’ and repeat this to yourself?

Notice when you’re afraid to do something. You’re probably already making courageous decisions on a daily basis, you just weren’t aware of it.?

If you’re still holding back, picture an image of someone you admire and channel how they would act.

Ask yourself, what would he/she/they do in this situation? Would they say no to this?

Embracing your fears and letting them go can be incredibly powerful.?

Breaking through that conditioning.?

We all deserve to live that expanded life.?


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Philippa Wickham is a FTSE100 strategist and neuron nerd. Her year long experiment about the brain is on instagram - why not follow along to see if you can improve your brain power this year. @philippawickham



Nuria Rodriguez

I help women aged 45-55, who struggle with menopausal symptoms, to feel lighter, healthier and more energised to live the life they want ????♂?

1 年

I love the idea of cultivating the habit of doing courageous things, Phil Wickham. Courage gives me a sense of adventure.

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Carrie Eddins

Helping trailblazing , visionary business owners become recognised leading voices in the world by being in the press using a holistic , heart-based and energetic approach

1 年

Phil Wickham I am with you Phil. Often it’s those little steps which are far bigger than the huge dramatic gestures . It’s the quiet quitting, the saying a gentle yes, the private reorganisation of one’s life and business without always needing to announce it publicly; that I find courageous ????

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Debora Luzi

I teach you how to turn your words into sales| Author| Speaker | Content Teacher| Host of the Women Who Dare to Desire conference| Queen of embodied visibility

1 年

Phil Wickham I could not agree more. To me is the same. What can be courageous for some is easy for others. So I would say going one step further of what feels comfortable for you, no one else. ??????

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Laura Toop

Leadership Transformation Consultant | Founder of #ProjectMe | Human-Centred Change Strategist | NHS & Police Advisory Chair | TEDx Speaker

1 年

Courage for me is showing up, daily, as our perfectly, imperfect selves Phil, as you say it isn't about the big gigantic steps, it is about the steps, for me, that take you in a direction you may not have taken before.

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CAROLE BOZKURT

Sales Coach | Helping coaches and consultants attract high-value clients and grow their income with The Client Method – a proven approach to generating leads, creating engaging content, and confidently closing sales

1 年

Courage is my ability to do things even when they scare me Phil Wickham - it’s about trusting in myself and knowing what I’m doing or will be doing will work out even when the odds are stacked against me.

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