Counter Dependent No More: How to Stop Avoiding Intimacy and Start Getting the Love You Want

We, humans, are profoundly social beings. Every facet of our neurobiology supports connection: physical, psychological, emotional, and spiritual. Yet many still struggle to build close relationships.?

One reason is counter-dependence. Though virtually unknown outside mental health professionals, counter-dependence nonetheless compromises countless relationships.

Counter-dependent individuals look like anyone else. They generally dress well and appear confident and successful. Often they attend good schools, have good-paying jobs, and enjoy prosperous careers. They also tend to be outgoing and have lots of friends.?

But below the surface, things aren’t so glamorous.

They’re generally lonely, fearful, and needy. They tend to suppress their feelings and bury their deep insecurities. They’re brave on the outside, scared on the inside.

What’s going on here?

Counter dependence is a fancy way of saying, “I’m terrified of being vulnerable and getting my heart broken.”

Let’s peel open the onion.

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