It could be an assumption or a false conclusion

Many a times the unhappiness in a man accrues by assuming an experience, a conclusion of an action.

We act and feel not according to what things really are, but according to the assumption, according to what image our mind holds of what they are.

I still remember an experience, while I was working abroad for a sports club in Abu Dhabi, U.A.E. It was the initial few months which were hard. At lunch break I use to have food in a restaurant nearby. There were times when you go penniless. You may walk to your office, but what about the food? I often overheard the restaurant owner say “No Credit”. One fine day I was forced to skip the breakfast as my mind said “No Money, No Food”. Afternoon I could not stop myself, I walked into the restaurant looked at the counter and said “Don’t ask me money “Basheer” I don’t have money, I am going to have food”. I took an empty seat and ordered food. On my way out I inquired at the counter “How much is it?” I noted it and left. Since then I was paying him at the end of the month.

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My daughter was learning to cook food and it’s a normal human tendency you get inspired to cook something special on your first attempt. The food was good and tasty too. I inquired how she managed? She said it’s a “secret”. On one of the holidays in the morning I requested her to prepare the same food. She said it’s not possible, the main ingredient need to be rinsed in water overnight. Curious, I did a little research and found that rinsing overnight was not mandatory, I did not explain it to her instead the very next Sunday I prepared the same food in the morning for breakfast by rinsing the same ingredient in warm water for just 10 minutes. She commented “the food is tastier than what I had prepared”. ?

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In another incident, we were invited by one of my cousin for the dinner and I found a uniformity in shape of the fried fish preparation, out of curiosity I asked why the fish was headless and tail less. My cousin’s wife explained that “This is how we prepare, I have observed my mom prepare” she continued “I do not know the reason, but I presume no one will be eating that portion anyway”. “That’s true” I said “Though we too do not eat but we fry an entire fish at home”. Her mother too explained it the same way, that she learned it from her mother. Her grandmother lived no more, she checked with her aunt (her grandmother’s younger sister). She gave an explanation and we could not stop laughing “The pan she fried the fish was small, so she took off the unwanted portion”. ?

“If our knowledge or information concerning certain aspects are baseless, unrealistic or distorted then our reactions too will be definitely inappropriate“

Many a time we go by assuming they are the norms, we follow in a mechanised manner, accepting unsaid, unwritten or unexplained mysteries without reasoning or questioning them. We assume “it could be so and carry on”. But if you explore further giving it a little push, a little pressure… the norms give up, they open up with no logic withholding it, giving many possibilities and better opportunities or much scope for improvisation. It is also true this norms might have been created by someone knowingly or unknowingly to protect themselves or serve their purpose and not necessarily applicable to all with no logical, legal or official binding or implications. Our assumption rather than rational reasoning or exploring the fact sometimes leave us ignorant or make our life hard.

Whatsoever the situation “Never Mind” give it a fact check, a face to face confrontation you do not lose by doing so.

“Question yourself “is it an actual fact or an assumption or a false conclusion?”.

NEVER MIND

never mind, how old you are

it’s awesome to know… you continue to grow

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never mind, if you have reached a dead end

tread a new path… for others to follow

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never mind, your hands do not reach

open your mind… let words reach them

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never mind, they stopped hugging you

you take a step forward… and hug them

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never mind, you slipped and fell

believe in your incredible strength… you can get up on your own

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never mind, the mindless gossiping about you

ignore, mind-less… you’ll still find many admirers

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never mind, you missed the bus

maybe, there is a better opportunity coming your way… a second chance

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never mind, you lost the race

thank god! you did not lose your confidence.

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be happy… share the goodness with others

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