The core symptom
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The core symptom

STEVE HAUPTMAN STEVE HAUPTMAN

STEVE HAUPTMAN

Author at MONKEYTRAPS: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop (book 1 of the Monkeytrap Series).

发布日期: 2018年3月5日
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If on first encountering the Laundry List you found it confusing, you're not alone.

Fortunately I can simplify it for you.

Because behind those thirteen traits is one core symptom that explains all the others. 

It is hinted at by item number 8...

You over-react to changes

beyond your control.

...and item number 13:

You tend to lock yourself

into a course of action

without thinking through

alternatives or consequences. 

This creates confusion,

self-loathing and

loss of control over

your environment.  

At the heart of all the adult child's problems lies control addiction.

Part 9 of a series on monkeytraps and adult children. 

Read part 1 here.

 


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