Coping up with your "pent up" emotions

By keeping yourself busy doing different different things like: Reading books, novels or anything you feel like which will keep you busy. Getting yourself out and meeting people, helping them, mixing with them. It isn’t that hard but worth trying. Having one or more hobbies will surely will help you. Making everyday schedule. I know it is never easy to consistently follow that but you will get used to it. Feeling lonely? Watch Horror Movies and you won’t feel alone. Also writing posts and articles on social media will keep you well occupied with the likes and comments received.

This is again a best way to keep yourself busy and the best part is People’s appreciations on good answers will never let you feel alone but motivated. This feelings are there because you want others to feel about you, your emptiness. But dear it never works in that way. You forget your ego and talk with people instead of waiting for them to understand you. It isn’t that hard to get rid of this If you are ready to change the perspective of looking at it.?

Do you feel like being an unwanted weed in your garden … don’t ignore it, don’t plaster it with poisons … and don’t rip it up by its butting head (it’ll just come back stronger and more pervasive) … nope … ya gotta get down to the nitty gritty … to the very bottom of the tape root … the pristine source of the negative emotional patterns and triggers you’ve identified in yourself. … with some work, you will see where, how, and when these negative thought patterns, that produce negative emotions, were planted inside you in the first place. Be prepared to do some forgiving too … because usually it’s parents, siblings, friends, family, role models at church and school that can impose the deepest hurts on us when we’re young.

But… please be patient and kind to yourself … and invest in a book entitled ‘Radical Forgiveness’ … and when you’re done reading it … look into the follow up book entitled … ‘Radical Self Forgiveness’ …. these books have worked miracles in people’s lives. Another great way to release pent up emotions is by talking to someone you trust or someone who supports you. They can comfort you by listening or by giving words of advice. If you don’t have anyone in particular to talk to, you can always talk to a guidance counselor, a therapist, or your church’s priest or pastor.”

A site called "All Women's Talk" had this to offer as well…“It is not enough that you keep your physical body healthy; you also need to make sure you have a healthy mind and spirit. One of the biggest mistakes we make with our emotional health is holding on to (mostly) negative emotions. Keeping emotions locked up inside you is not a healthy way to deal with problems and issues that come up in your life. Even if you want to forget about things, they have a way of resurfacing – through troublesome dreams, depression, anxiety, and even physical problems. It is important that you find a healthy way to express these emotions. I made a list of ways to release pent up emotions. Please read on.

If you have no words for pent up emotions, then shouting is the perfect way to vocally express yourself. Go to a place with little to no people (to avoid scaring anyone) and scream your lungs out. On the off chance that you can’t get to a place like that, you can also just shout into a pillow or your bed. Not everyone who reads this site is spiritual or religious so I completely understand if not everyone agrees with this item. However, praying or meditating can really help release pent up emotions and ease the spirit. I guess it works in a similar way as the second suggestion. After all, you are communing or talking with the universe or a higher being.

There are some people who are not so good with verbally expressing themselves. If you are one of those people, then you can always write about the emotions you are keeping inside. Journaling, especially when made a habit, can really help promote a healthy mind and spirit. Throughout the years, there have been many songs that have been written that can aptly convey a person’s thoughts and emotions. It doesn’t matter if you have a great voice or not; singing is always an alternative to shouting or talking if you want to release pent up emotions.

If you are the creative type of person, then crafting is the perfect therapy for you. Like in my case, when I just need to relax and clean my emotional slate, I bake, make jewelry, cross stitch, or draw. You don’t really have to be good at your chosen craft. You just need something that can help release emotions by way of creative expression. Sometimes, when we hold in so much emotion, we get confrontational and irritable. In times like this, one of the best ways to release pent up emotion is by throwing or hitting things. If you do choose to use this suggestion, make sure that no one will end up getting hurt or that you won’t ruin anything that is valuable or can still be utilized. Try punching a pillow, throwing a pillow against the wall, or kicking or hitting a punching bag.

Exercise is a wonderful activity to engage in during times of emotional distress. You can dance, run or jog, walk, clean your house, garden, walk your dog, hike, swim, do martial arts, etc. Aside from helping release the building pressure inside, exercise also produces endorphins which helps make you feel better. And as tempting as it is to exercise yourself to exhaustion, try not to. Crying is probably one of the best tools living beings have to express emotions. There is such relief and lightness that comes when the tears flow. And remember that crying is not a sign of weakness. So, whether you are a man or woman, you have the freedom to cry if you want to.

Healthy self-expression is something that everyone can learn to do. It is not very hard if you take time to find the method that works best for you.” Different emotions often seem to require different emotions. It took about 2 years of training. Empathy, horror, sadness, etc were gotten rid of by conditioning, as in exposure to repeated videos of horrible things happening, until it no longer evoked any emotion. Romantic love was gotten rid of by prolonged reflection and reading vast amounts of writing on all facets of the topic (my study was about 50,000 pages of material). My conclusion was that romantic love is a delusion and I can’t feel something I think is not real — I’m simply not wired that way. That is why I am also an atheist.

Fear was gotten rid of by a combination of things, which included extreme things such as skydiving. (I used to have a fear of heights). Also, the realization that I am not really real (James Carrey, of all people, seems to have come to this conclusion as well, recently) and it doesn’t matter. Life is a book, when you are born is the cover, and when you die is the back cover, and there is nothing before or after the book, and nothing to fear. One has to be adaptable, to get rid of emotions. Nothing evokes any emotion at all. If every single person I have ever met, or previously cared about was slaughtered by a maniac in front of me, I would feel nothing at all. I feel nothing when I see terrorist attacks killing people. I feel nothing watching terrorists dying. I feel nothing at all.

And I have complete serenity. My training at first was based on the idea of turning off emotions for periods of time, but not experiencing emotions is addictive, if you can even describe it as that. Serenity, calm. I prefer the tranquility of no emotion, even to having joy or laughter. Keeping emotions turned off went from temporary to simply permanent. Anyone who says I am wrong, simply has not experienced lack of emotions to their fullest extent, and simply has no basis of comparison. I had emotions, so I can actually do a comparison.

The funny thing is, I have enough intellectual awareness that I can process the inputs of things and people around me, so I can approximate how I used to act. No one who knows me, no family, no coworkers can even tell a difference, because I am like a black box. The same inputs produce the same outputs, but the entire inside of the black box is different. Cheers!