Coping with Unexpected Losses

Recently, the unexpected loss of three of our friends in our life has left me feeling overwhelmed and emotional. I had contemplated expressing my thoughts after Thangaraj's passing but decided against it. However, the recent deaths, of PTK & Muthupandi, have stirred up my emotions again and reminded me of the fragility of life. So thought to write up.

As humans, we are born without any concept of death. It's only when we face it ourselves or witness it in others that we realise its gravity. My first encounter with death was when I was just 5, when my grandfather on my dad's side passed away. At that age, death was just a word to me and held no significance.?As I grew older, I encountered different deaths of known and unknown people throughout my life, natural causes, accidents, medical conditions, and even suicides. But it was only when my friends and family members started passing away that death became personal for me.

During my twenties, I was mentally prepared to face the loss of my senior family members. As I entered my forties, I believed I would be ready to handle the passing of my previous generations. By the time I will reach my sixties, I anticipated being prepared for the death of my peers. However, things seem to be occurring at a faster pace than I had anticipated. For now, I had?been preparing for the loss of my previous generations, but I never expected to lose so many of my peers at once.?

Till now, I have been fortunate that I have not lost any of my elders except for one uncle. But since the outbreak of Corona, I have lost two of my cousins and 27 of my friends and acquaintances, all from my own generation. It's been just couple of months since three of our friends passed away, and it has come as a great shock to us.

These losses have made me question the importance of the things we chase in life. What's the point of fighting and running around? We should focus on what brings us peace and happiness. We must appreciate the little things and find joy in every moment. Life is too short to focus on meaningless things.

Coping with the unexpected loss of a loved one is never easy. It can leave us feeling overwhelmed, confused, and unsure of how to move forward. As we process our grief, it's important to allow ourselves to feel the full range of emotions that come with loss, whether it's sadness, anger, or confusion. Seeking support from family, friends, or professionals who can provide comfort and help us process our grief is essential. Taking care of ourselves through exercise, healthy eating, and rest can also be beneficial in coping with an unexpected loss. Remember that healing takes time, and it's okay to take things one day at a time.

It's important to recognise that there's no higher power that will save We are responsible for our happiness and finding meaning in life. We should be kind to each other and treat everyone with empathy and compassion. Death is a natural part of life, but we shouldn't fear it. Instead, we should live our lives in a way that brings us joy and spreads positivity.

In the end, life is a priceless gift that we should treasure. It's essential to value each moment and concentrate on what truly counts. We should be mindful of our behaviour, live with compassion, and spread positivity to everyone in our vicinity.