The Continual Process of Release

Last month was my birthday month, and if you follow me on IG, you know the party started early (and honestly, it’s lowkey still going). But entering into this next year has me thinking about a lot.?

I’m thinking about release from the perspective of getting older, becoming an empty nester, and releasing my daughter to her next adventure.?

I’m in a place where I’m having to release the ideas I had about motherhood and growing old with someone. I’m releasing the fear that I have around starting over again in a new place and doing a new thing. And I’m releasing the anxiety I have about growing my business.?

This month, I'm stepping fully into this new run around the sun, Friend, and I’m hyper-focused on release. So, of course, we’ve got a lot to talk about.?

What I’m Learning This Month

I started the top of the year talking about letting go and releasing people, places, and things in your relationship space, family space, workspace, client space, and business space.?

I told you if it wasn’t uplifting you in some capacity, then (say it with me)—it was time to RELEASE IT. And when I said that, I took time to get my thoughts clear after doing my own releasing, and then I moved on.?

But what I’m learning is that releasing is a consistent and continual process.?

We will always be pruning our garden and ensuring that the dead leaves get raked up. That the rock that fell on the soil gets moved out of the way or that we build things to keep out the rabbits and all of the pests that would mess up our rich soil.?

And so this month, I’m deep in the trenches of learning about the process of release, asking myself these questions:

• What is it like when you put your faith in someone, and they disappoint you to the point that you no longer like them??
• What is it like when someone who you respect operates out of integrity??
• What is it like to be betrayed when you have done everything to lift another person up??
• How do you navigate release that's not fueled by anger but also allows you to not come back??

And in my search for answers this month, I've been re-reading one of my favorite books, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab, to help me with release.?

I went back to this book because I realized that I have benefited from her teachings and her writing. It has influenced the way that I think about how I teach my work in leadership and management.?

But what I’ve also realized, after re-reading this, is that sometimes, when you're the teacher, you forget how to be the participant in the thing that you're teaching. Read that again if you have to! Or you think you could just do it all and don't need anything else because you're the teacher.

But reading this book this month has reminded me that first: boundaries are for you. And second, you have to start with how you invite people into your space. And more importantly (as we make our way back to that word release), you also have to know who you can release or repel.?

This will be based on the boundaries you set but also on how you're going to be treated and so much more things. Like how you operate from a values perspective, how you walk with integrity, how you do what you say you're going to do, and how you don’t stab people in the back.?

Whatever the IT is, I’ve learned that you’ve got to get re-firmed and replanted with yourself so that you can then release others.?

Release what doesn’t serve you but make sure to embrace this community!?

In love, life, and business, it can be so hard to navigate through what’s jumbled up in your head to see the paths that are clear as day.??

But you don’t have to walk it alone anymore, Friend! In my new series, A Kish Goodnight, you can grab that bottle of wine, throw on that caftan and listen into a community of women who just GET what it is you’re experiencing.?

Watch it here.?

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