Constant Criticism- the enemy of Confidence
Chinhhaa Raheja
Personal Impact Coach- Craft a Powerful Leadership Presence and Elevate Your Career | Author | Keynote Speaker | Be seen, Be heard, Be Known
One of the reasons why you don’t feel courageous, confident, and like a boss is because you keep putting yourself down all the time.
It's the language you use for yourself, the words you use to talk to yourself.
We say such nonsense to ourselves for the tiniest of mistakes.
This little voice in our head keeps telling us "I can’t do it", "I'm not worth it", "I'm going to fail", "You can't even do this much".
We talk about toxic people around us without acknowledging the toxic voice inside us.?
The brain is wired to observe a negative thought more than a positive. We remember a negative experience more than a positive experience. Once you understand that it’s just your brain’s way of helping you survive, you understand the same brain is not helping you move ahead.?
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One way of becoming more confident in life is to watch what you tell yourself. Being self-aware of every thought you think about yourself. Yes, we must be critical of our actions and behaviour, but criticising the whole being is a disservice to your soul. You can be critical of your actions without labelling yourself as a failure. That is where the opportunity for growth is.
Start acknowledging your accomplishments no matter how small they are, no matter what your little voice is telling you. Start celebrating every win no matter how big or small, and become proud of the person you are becoming.
Here's a wonderful tip I learnt many years ago, and I have applied it over and over again, seen results and hence sharing with you-
Talk to yourself as you would talk to your best friend or your child. When our best friend makes a mistake do we say "What an idiot, how did you not know this??" or do we say "Hey it's okay! You know better now, you will do better the next time. I believe you, I am here for you." Imagine what will happen to your confidence and self-esteem if you speak to yourself like that!
Being overly self-critical hasn't really helped you all these years, try being kind to yourself for a change and see the difference!
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3 年The secret of the happiest life lies in these beautiful lines! Which are so beautifully, logically, and intelligently put on to create a piece of the article giving a path to a peaceful mindset! It's true: If you started believing in yourself and feeding your soul with positive words then you will make the peace in your life. So, ??Believe in yourself to carve out your own identity! Always remember Self-belief + Right Path Actions= Success. ?As it's true: Success Is in BELIEF. Changing self-doubt into self-belief is a choice. ??So make a choice that will change your life. ??Make a choice that bridges the gap between who you are and who you aspire to be... ??So choose yourself to have great power to achieve anything you desire. In end, I really want to appreciate this beautiful article and the author for giving her time to compose such an inspiring article for us. Thanks a lot, Chinha Raheja Maam! Thanks for a great power to us??