Consequences of Mental Decisions Done by Emotional Disconnections

Inspired by: The Gift of Sensitivity

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Life is a flow: if we don’t change, we start to die

How many times I have heard about keeping a “cool head” and could not agree more!

For sure, making any decision from emotional reactions would be self-distracting. However, we often suppress emotions to align with a "cool-headed" logic.

I was even trained in this approach during business seminars.

Emotional disconnections can be useful as they act like a situational cold shower, allowing you to set emotions aside.

For instance, coherence can be achieved through a short meditation that aligns us with ourselves. However, why cant we stay coherent forever?

This creates a pause, allowing us extra time to properly address our emotional state. Later, we should return and explore what caused such emotions.

Sometimes, these may be minor feelings, but often we are triggered by something deeper.

When we avoid connecting with our emotions, we use our life energy "in advance," borrowing it from future happy moments.

It is working, yet causing burnout.

When we devalue our feelings and prioritize our decisions, it acts like an elastic band that snaps back at the point of highest tension.

This often leads to health problems, as the physical level is the last indicator of self-destruction.

Some of us experience this gradually, while others burn out quickly. Have you ever heard of “good people who leave us so fast”?

Those who are kind to everyone around them often do so at their own expense, leading to faster burnout.

Nothing could be more spiritual than your everyday experience

Once we disconnect from life situations, we disconnect from life itself, creating emotional numbness.

That means we disconnect from life which is our only teacher, where no master, guru, or external authority can surpass the lessons of everyday, mundane life.

Life is always honest with us, acting as our true friend that never deceives.

It reflects our actual state and continuously shows us what is happening without dictating our next move. Life never instructs us on what to do or which rituals to follow.

Remedies become essential once we develop an inner understanding through experience. This teacher guides us to have those inner experiences, engage, understand, and accept.

Our task is to transform our emotional state.

We need no one to validate our experiences because our own life confirms them.

We require no status, diploma, certificate, or other markers of a knowledge hierarchy in this school.

Wisdom accompanies life, which is our greatest teacher.

It quietly and innocently reveals where you stand, delivering bold truths directly.

All achievements are meaningless if our hearts are closed to love, compassion, support, and freedom.

Listen to everyone, but make your own decisions.

Life happens uniquely for each person; it is yours and responds individually. Thus, others' experiences, which we eagerly seek, are merely hints. Keys are personal. My task may be to share, and yours to reflect, and vice versa.

Once we disconnect from our emotions, we lose the message and our connection to life as a teacher.

We start to believe we are here to achieve success and learn how to act better from experiences.

However, our true task is to feel good before, during, and after any life experience.

Feeling good is the primary outcome that supports our health, quality of life, and energy levels.

Many of us believe that a lifestyle, with its little luxuries available for a certain amount of money, provides long-term life satisfaction.

However, we must recognize that energy and health levels, quality of our connections, and opportunities for self-expression are viable alternatives to a materialistic lifestyle and don't require money.

The truth is, we can do whatever we want, mastering our emotions to genuinely feel good, regardless of circumstances.

It's about truly feeling good, without lying to ourselves or others or pretending positivity, just being in harmony within.

The task is to feel good, not to feel right

Feeling good about something indicates we established emotional engagement.

We possess an inner compass guiding us to understand what feeling good truly means.

Although we might feel a sense of victory when overcoming someone unpleasant, we recognize that revenge won't restore what we lost or what we valued.

Such actions toward others don't alter the situation or make us feel genuinely good, even if we think it is justified.

We become disconnected from ourselves when we act against our sense of feeling good.

Many who have faced challenging, life-transforming situations often recall how boring, mechanical, repetitive, and emotionally lacking their lives were just before the dramatic event. Life tends to give us signs before drama unfolds.

Some might say, “Oh no, life was so good, and then suddenly it happened.” Well, each situation is unique. In many cases, life appeared comfortable because we closed our eyes to reality, clinging to attachments and limiting our perception to see only what we wanted.

It provides comfort, stability, and a perceived sense of psychological safety, yet it can also act as a comfortable blanket that hinders change and personal growth.

When we cease to cultivate our brilliance, life sends us a transformative message, an unbreakable rule.

We can still lead a happy life without studying at school, reaching the pinnacle of our careers, marrying, or becoming famous on social media. However, if we stop pursuing self-development and accumulate negative emotions, we will continue to face life's lessons repeatedly.

Our job is to listen and take action on emotional regulation accordingly

Life flow involves relinquishing control over life circumstances while focusing on curating our inner emotional state.

We process, cleanse, and nurture our emotions so the outer world can reflect our inner beauty daily.

How much do you think your life will chnage if you will answer these questions:

• What if we could become best friends with our emotions, the source of our life energy?
• What if we could harness emotional energy to anticipate better opportunities?
• What if the world is full of potential and far superior to the outdated and harsh survival mentality we have inherited?
• What if we are meant to feel, know, and understand more, transform faster, and utilize more parts of our brain?
• What if love, unity, acceptance, and compassion allow us to live life to the fullest?

?Why should we suppress emotions and limit our natural states instead of giving them a full pathway?

That’s all for today.

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