"Conquering Fear, Cultivating Connection: A Life's Journey and a Speaker's Journey"

In real life many of us tend to give up “leadership” when things get tough. We tend to use fight, freeze or flight mechanisms to deal with the anxiety, uncertainty or overwhelming tasks of life.

• We sometimes tend to work too hard and too long, so we eventually cannot feel anymore that our body is protesting, until it completely shuts down.
• We sometimes flee in fantasy. Losing connection with reality. We prefer to live on a cloud, not dealing with what life has put on our plate.
• Or we freeze. We become lifeless. As if we no longer inhabit our body, our breathing can become superficial, cutting us short from life’s oxygen.

?In all these cases, when the going gets tough, we are often no longer in flow.

And this is exactly what happens in the micro world of presenting, when we find it exciting to present.

We deal with presentation anxiety by working too hard. We tend to overprepare and spend hours and hours on a presentation. Leaving nothing to the unexpected. Or while we present, we put our whole weight into the presentation, we fight/box our way through it. Losing connection by being overactive and working too hard.

Or we freeze up when we present. Sometimes resulting in an out of body experience. We hear that we are talking, but it is as if someone else is talking from a distance. We get out of connection with ourselves, and thereby with the audience as well.

Or we flee. We make the distance between us and the audience as large as possible. We tend to ignore and not really look at our audience, or get preoccupied with technique, the slides, so we do not have to deal with the audience looking at us. I am here, but at the same time, I am not really.

Because we find presenting exciting, we tend to disconnect, but by doing so, we lose flow, pleasure and power…

We do not talk consciously anymore. We need to work very hard; it does not feel effortlessly at all. We talk really quickly, to get it over with, as soon as possible.

And this is not necessary.

As soon as you can be with this exciting feeling, and at the same time, keep your connection, you will slowly but surely start to experience flow and will start enjoying presenting. Then the magic happens, and everything you say will be powerful, impactful, but effortless at the same time. Because you are connected. With yourself and your audience.

• Do you want to learn how you can remain in flow when you present?
• How you can bypass the freeze, fight and flight reaction? And be in the moment?

Then apply for a VIP-training day, where we will to zoom into this aspect and will make presenting much easier, more fun and at the same time more impactful.

To more grip, impact and presenting pleasure.