Conquer Your Public Speaking Fears: How to Calm Your Nerves and Command the Room

INTRODUCTION

Public speaking is a common fear, often ranking higher than the fear of death in various surveys. Many people experience the following symptoms: a shaky voice, weak knees, a closing throat, and a mind that suddenly goes blank. These are familiar scenarios for anyone who has had to give a presentation at work or speak in front of a large group of people. But what if there were ways to steady your voice and calm your nerves? What if you could transform that fear into confidence??

In this article, we'll explore three proven methods to help you overcome the fear of public speaking and become a more confident, engaging, and powerful speaker. Let's dive into the strategies that can help you overcome the fear of public speaking for good.?

UNDERSTANDING THE PHYSIOLOGY OF NERVES

The first step to overcoming the fear of public speaking is understanding why we get nervous. The amygdala, a part of the brain, acts as a warning system, constantly on the lookout for danger to keep us safe. However, the fear of public speaking is a perceived danger, not an actual threat. This distinction is crucial.

The Role of the Amygdala

The amygdala's role is to trigger the fight-or-flight response. When you perceive a threat, your body prepares to either fight or flee. This response includes physical symptoms like butterflies in the stomach, tension in the body, increased adrenaline, and a surge of energy. The interesting thing is that these symptoms are the same whether you're nervous about public speaking, or excited to ride the big dipper at the fair.?

Another important fact to realize is that the amygdala doesn't differentiate between a real physical threat and a 'perceived' threat.? This means that the physiological response you have when you face a growling dog can be similar to the response you have when you stand in front of a live audience. Understanding this can help you start to control and manage your body's physiological responses to public speaking, or any other situation that triggers anxiety and nerves in the body and mind.??

Reframing Nervousness

One of the most effective ways to manage nerves is to reframe those nerve wracking situations.? A seven year old little girl came up with a brilliant word during a choir rehearsal many years ago. I was training a kids choir to raise money for our Queensland charity Paradise Kids, and we were about to perform in front of over 10,000 people at the Mayor's Christmas Carols.?

I was revving the kids up backstage before the performance and discussing the difference between nerves and excitement. One little girl piped up and said. "Oh! I get it. We are not nervous at all… we are just "Nervous-Cited." We all agreed, and I have been using the term ever since.?

When you're excited, you experience similar physical symptoms to nerves: butterflies in the stomach, tension in the body, and increased adrenaline. By viewing your nervousness as at least partial excitement, you can transform a negative experience into a positive one. Public speaking can be thrilling and fulfilling when you focus on the excitement of inspiring and educating others. Changing the minds and the lives of others is so important and if you can do that, you can leave a powerful legacy behind when you die.?

Consider for a minute, the scenarios where you felt excited rather than nervous. Maybe it was the anticipation of a first date, the thrill of an amusement park ride, or the joy of reuniting with loved ones. All these situations bring about physical sensations similar to those of nerves, but with a positive twist. By adopting this mindset, you can approach public speaking with enthusiasm rather than dread.

WARMING UP THE VOICE AND BODY

Preparation is key to successful public speaking.?

Warming up your voice and body can help you feel more relaxed and ready to deliver your presentation. Proper preparation can significantly reduce the physical symptoms of nervousness and help you feel more grounded and confident.

Keep in mind that a speaking presentation requires your whole body, mind and voice to be at the top of their game. So warming up the body, practicing focus- improving techniques like "Brain Gym Exercises" and utilizing a solid vocal warm up routine is key to you staying calm and on point. You can check out my best speakers' warm up routine below by watching the free video on my Youtube Channel - The Voice of Confidence TV.??

By doing these three types of whole-body instrument warm-ups, you ensure you are 100% ready for any presentation. So stand up straight, bring lots of energy to your content and maintain enthusiasm to set a good mood right off the bat. Good posture and positive energy help project confidence and make a strong impression on your audience.

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT - OR DOES IT?

Practice is essential for any public speaking engagement, but it's important to practice correctly. The saying "practice makes perfect" is misleading. Instead, try thinking "practice makes permanent." Practicing the wrong way can cement bad habits. Here’s how to practice effectively:

Correct Practice Techniques

1. Chunking: Break your presentation into chunks and practice each section thoroughly. Use physical movements to help lock the content into muscle memory. This method ensures that you can recall information easily and reduces the chances of forgetting parts of your speech.
2. Over-Exaggeration: Initially, use exaggerated arm and hand movements to help memorize your speech. This physical engagement helps with retention. Over time, these exaggerated movements will be internalized, making it easier to recall your speech naturally and easily.?
3. Mindset Movements: Use specific gestures to reinforce points. For example, touch your heart when speaking about something personal or significant. This helps link your speech content with physical actions, aiding memory. These movements serve as cues, helping you remember key points without relying on notes.

Rehearsing the Introduction and Conclusion

The introduction and conclusion of your presentation are crucial. These are the parts most susceptible to nerves and where mistakes often occur due to lack of preparation. Practice these sections extensively – at least 50 times – until they become second nature. Once you have mastered these parts, the rest of your presentation will flow more naturally.

The introduction sets the tone for your entire presentation. It's your chance to grab your audience's attention and make a strong first impression. A well-rehearsed introduction can boost your confidence and set the stage for a successful presentation.

The conclusion is equally important because it's your final chance to leave a lasting impression. A strong conclusion reinforces your main points and provides a clear takeaway for your audience. By practicing your conclusion thoroughly, you ensure that you end on a high note, leaving your audience with a positive and memorable impression.

TRANSFORMING YOUR PUBLIC SPEAKING SKILLS

Becoming a confident public speaker is a journey that requires patience, practice, and persistence. Here are some additional tips and techniques to help you transform your public speaking skills:

Visualization

Visualization is a powerful technique used by many successful public speakers. Before your presentation, take a few moments to close your eyes and imagine yourself speaking confidently and successfully. Visualize the audience reacting positively to your speech. This mental rehearsal can help reduce anxiety and boost your confidence.

Breathing Techniques

Controlled breathing can help calm your nerves and steady your voice. Practice deep breathing exercises before and during your presentation. Breathe in slowly through your nose, hold the breath for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. This technique helps to lower your heart rate and reduce anxiety.

Audience Engagement

Engaging with your audience can help reduce nervousness and make your presentation more interactive and enjoyable. Ask questions, encourage participation, and make eye contact with different members of the audience. This creates a connection and makes you feel more like you're having a conversation rather than giving a speech.

Seeking Feedback

After your presentation, seek feedback from trusted colleagues, friends, or mentors. Constructive feedback can provide valuable insights into areas for improvement and highlight your strengths. Use this feedback to refine your skills and continue growing as a public speaker.

CONCLUSION

Overcoming the fear of public speaking is entirely possible with the right strategies and mindset. Understanding the physiology of nerves, warming up your voice and body, and practicing effectively are key steps in becoming a confident and engaging speaker. By reframing your nervousness as "nervous-Icted," you can turn a daunting experience into an exhilarating one.

If you're ready to take your public speaking skills to the next level, consider joining The Voice Club. In this exclusive monthly membership program you'll find resources, live coaching classes, and a supportive student community to help you find your authentic voice of confidence and finally master the art of public speaking.?

Don't let fear hold you back any longer. Embrace the excitement and unlock your full potential as a speaker.

Thank you for reading.?

If you have any questions or need further assistance, please reach out. I'm here to help you succeed in your public speaking journey.?

About Elisa James M.Mus.Th.M

Elisa James is an Executive Voice Coach, International performer and influencer in the field of voice and presentation skills for business. She is the author of 5 best-selling books, and has a popular Youtube Channel - The Voice of Confidence TV. Elisa? coaches many of the world's celebrity speakers, TV journalists and entrepreneurs over five continents. She has over 60,000 followers world-wide and holds two Master's Degrees to back up her 35 year experience on stage and on camera. Elisa coaches top business professionals in her VIP 1:1 sessions, and also through her online courses and group coaching programs. As a workshop facilitator she also leads one and two day workshops in Voice and Presentations skills for Corporate Professionals. For information and bookings go to www.elisajames.com?