Confusion Vs Resolution

Disruptions, Dilemmas and Collisions do Trigger Human Development!

Confusion is defined by the very chaos generated by our emotions, behaviors and contexts we feel disconnected from. A subtle emotion, visible on a long number of disagreements projected on others, mirroring our own happiness. When we find ourselves alone, that voice comes back and keeps rolling in our head. The circle of thoughts meant to "fit in" does not calm down. We constantly oscillate between what is wrong with us and what is wrong with the others.

We feel that we "no longer belong" and we want to do "something else" at any cost. "What you no longer want" will not replace the need for acknowledging "what you really want".

There are two questions to look deeper into: one about what defines "You" and one about That Context, "the place where You want to be". Instead, most of the times, we all hurry to get away from personal discomfort and move fast on new resolutions.

Wiser would be to create a small space where we can look into ourselves, what we were, what we have become and choose who we want to be. See through our actions and align it with who we want to be. What you would like people to see in us, what effort are we ready to invest further in life.

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True resolution comes from acceptance with a purpose and a meaning, from the joy of giving the unknown path a fair chance. Resolution comes from ways of creating light in darkness, from building bridges where the mind cannot comprehend or contain. To force yourself "to be able to" is not a resolution. To help yourself try in the limitlessness and courage of a child, the intuition through which it builds "elastic feelings" ... can be that new path.

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Resolution doesn't mean "giving up"! It means transforming, searching and finding yourself, letting the confusion guide you through your indecisions, wants and actions . We are all waiting for a lifelong plan, a dedicated and committed relationship, like a gift to make our journey more beautiful, peaceful and fulfilling. But the price for this unquestioning consistency is profound apathy and abandonment.

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I believe there is more creative energy in Confusion than in Resolution, more infinite options drawn than in keen will and bitter determination. However, their value increases amazingly when we recognize their complementarity. Embracing the truth that they cannot be separated or isolated, just as we cannot separate the egg from the chicken or light from darkness. It is a necessary ambivalence.

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What we could learn is to know how to ask ourselves the right questions, honestly and humbly. Yes, there is much more discomfort in confusion, but once you know, more pleasant will be the feeling of embracing a Resolution. Avoiding the feeling of confusion will lead to multiple, unfounded and shifting resolutions. Would be fantastic to have more books about Strength of Confusion than on the Force of Resolution, to learn what defines us in particular and what feeds our inner motivations.

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The lessons we live are the stories we will tell further on in life, they are our imprint on the life of another human, who will feel lost in their own confusion. We feel better when motivating and inspiring other people. I am sure there are not the words we use, but the emotion we share when we say "yes, it was hard" but "I got it" and that "helped me".

I don't know how much we do for ourselves without touching the others. What do you want to pass on, what do you want to be known for, what purpose makes you more peaceful in your thoughts?

Remember, it can be hard, it can be long and, clearly, it can be confusing. We explore a whole life and perhaps there are few "places" where our "flag" will be recognized. And still, It's worth it!

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Patience, vulnerability and expressing discomfort are perhaps the hardest keys to find in front of a "closed door". The voices around awaken in you the voice of your own helplessness, shame and rejection.

Listen and be heard, take this moment to select the voices that relate to you and your purpose. Trust that all doors are opening other doors and you will be safe again. Trust that the Universe is infinite, but resources must be acquired and mined. First try to understand "why you don't know" and not "why you can't". Confusion leads you towards a different attitude that will most likely lead to a different action, and perhaps not in form, but in purpose. The Paths remain finite as long as thoughts remain undefined.

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Rebellion is the first positively charged feeling. Take advantage of it and move to the next step by discovering new limits. Be that happily ever after with yourself. And always remember:

"Just because you are struggling it doesn't mean you are failing."