The Confidence Paradox: Navigating the Fine Line Between Confidence and Criticism
Megan Dalla-Camina
Founder & CEO Women Rising | Women Rising book | Winner Telstra Business Award 2024 Accelerating Women | Partnering with 730+ companies with Women Rising and Male Allies programs | PhD researcher. womenrisingbook.com
The Challenge of Confidence
The Confidence Paradox is one of the most pervasive challenges women face in their professional lives. On the one hand, women are told to be confident—to speak up, assert themselves, and lead with authority.
On the other hand, when women do exactly that, they often face backlash, criticism, or are labelled as aggressive or arrogant. This paradox places women in a difficult position: they must project confidence to advance their careers, yet they must do so within the narrow confines of societal expectations that can penalise them for the very same behaviour that is praised in men.
The Double Bind of Confidence
Confidence is a critical currency in the workplace. It can open doors to leadership opportunities, influence decision-making, and drive career progression. However, for women, displaying confidence can be a double-edged sword.
They are expected to be confident, but not too confident—assertive, but not aggressive; self-assured, but not arrogant. This creates a tightrope that women must walk, balancing their natural confidence with the risk of being negatively judged.
This paradox is particularly evident in situations where women are told to "just be more confident" as if confidence alone is the key to overcoming systemic barriers and gender biases.
The reality is far more complex. Women often internalise these mixed messages, leading to self-doubt and imposter syndrome, where they question their worth and abilities despite their accomplishments.
The Impact of Systemic Bias
Systemic biases in the workplace contribute significantly to the Confidence Paradox. Women are often interrupted or talked over in meetings, have their ideas credited to others, or are overlooked for promotions despite their qualifications.
These experiences can erode even the most confident woman's sense of self-worth over time. For example, microaggressions—subtle, often unintentional slights or insults—can accumulate and take a significant toll on a woman's confidence.
Being consistently interrupted, having your contributions downplayed, or being told to "tone it down" can make women feel like they are walking on eggshells, constantly questioning their actions and decisions.
Imposter Syndrome: A Common Companion
Imposter syndrome often accompanies the Confidence Paradox. Women who experience imposter syndrome feel like they are frauds, attributing their success to luck rather than their abilities. This feeling is exacerbated by a work environment that does not fully acknowledge or value their contributions.
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The Confidence Paradox, combined with imposter syndrome, can create a vicious cycle where women are hesitant to assert themselves for fear of being judged or criticised, which in turn reinforces their self-doubt and limits their career advancement.
Reflection Questions: Navigating the Confidence Paradox ? ?
1. When have you felt pressured to appear confident while fearing the potential backlash? How did this impact your behaviour and career decisions? ? ?
2. Have you ever received feedback that you were "too assertive" or "not confident enough"? How did this feedback affect your confidence and approach to your work? ? ?
3. How has imposter syndrome influenced your perception of your abilities and accomplishments? What factors contribute to these feelings, and how have you addressed them? ? ?
4. What systemic issues in your workplace may be affecting your ability to demonstrate authentic confidence? How can you begin to address these issues, either individually or collectively?
Building Authentic Confidence
Addressing the Confidence Paradox requires a dual approach. Women need to cultivate authentic confidence—confidence that is rooted in their true selves and aligned with their values.
At the same time, workplaces must evolve to support diverse expressions of confidence, free from the constraints of gendered expectations and biases.
True confidence is not about conforming to a one-size-fits-all model of leadership or womanhood; it is about embracing your unique strengths and being empowered to live, work and lead in a way that feels authentic to you.
By recognising and challenging the systemic barriers that undermine confidence, both individually and collectively, women can navigate the Confidence Paradox and create a more equitable and inclusive workplace for all.
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