The Confidence Myth: Why You’re More Capable Than You Think
Adrian Close
Helping People of All Ages (Including Teenagers/School Students) Build Unstoppable Confidence | Creator of The Confidence Mastery & The 30-Day Confidence Building Challenge! - See my website below ??
?? Ever felt like everyone else has their life together except you?
You walk into a room, and somehow, everyone seems so assured. So in control. Meanwhile, you’re over here second-guessing every word before it even leaves your mouth.
And don’t even get me started on meetings. The number of times you’ve had a great idea but sat on it until someone else said the exact same thing (and got all the credit)? Yeah… we’ve all been there.
But here’s the truth: Nobody is born confident.
Not that charismatic speaker. Not the CEO who commands the room. Not even that effortlessly cool person who seems like they never break a sweat.
Confidence isn’t something you “have” or “don’t have.” It’s a skill. And like any skill, it can be built, trained, and mastered.
Today, we’re going to dismantle some common myths about confidence, show you how your brain actually works against you, and - most importantly - give you a roadmap to finally break free from self-doubt.
?? The #1 Confidence Killer That Nobody Talks About
You know what destroys confidence faster than failure? Overthinking.
Think about it. How many times have you talked yourself out of something before you even tried?
?? “I’ll sound stupid”
?? “They won’t take me seriously”
?? “I’m just not a confident person”
Your brain is constantly running mental simulations of failure. And guess what? Your brain doesn’t actually know the difference between imagination and reality. So, every time you picture yourself failing, your nervous system reacts as if it’s actually happening.
It’s like your brain is some overprotective security guard trying to keep you “safe”. But in reality, all it’s doing is keeping you small.
The solution? You need to rewire your brain to associate action with reward, not risk.
?? How to Trick Your Brain Into Confidence
?? Step 1: Stop waiting for confidence to show up first.
Confidence isn’t something that magically appears before you act - it’s the result of taking action. The more you do something, the less scary it becomes.
?? Step 2: Small wins create big momentum.
Want to feel confident speaking up in meetings? Start with tiny steps. Share a point in a 1-on-1 conversation first. Then in a small group. Then in a full meeting. Your brain will start collecting “proof” that you can do it.
?? Step 3: Talk to yourself like a coach, not a critic.
You wouldn’t tell your best friend, “You’re an idiot, just sit down and be quiet”. So why say it to yourself?
Flip the script. Start replacing your negative self-talk with:
? “I am capable”
? “I don’t have to be perfect - I just have to try”
? “My voice matters”
When you do this enough, your inner voice becomes your biggest cheerleader instead of your worst enemy.
?? Why Confidence is Like Ordering at a Restaurant
Ever been to a fancy restaurant and panicked over the menu?
You scan the options. The waiter arrives. You freeze.
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Instead of getting what you really want, you panic-order the first safe option that pops into your head. Then, as soon as they walk away, you regret it.
Confidence works the same way. If you hesitate too long, your brain will default to the “safe” option - staying quiet, staying small, and staying stuck.
But when you train yourself to speak up without second-guessing, you get what you actually want.
?? The 30-Day Challenge That Changes Everything
The reason most confidence-building advice fails? It’s all theory.
?? “Just believe in yourself” - (Thanks, but how)?
?? “Fake it till you make it” - (Cool, but I feel like a fraud).
?? “Just be more confident”! (Wow, why didn’t I think of that)?!
What actually works? Structured action.
That’s exactly what the Confidence Building Mastery program is all about.
?? Here’s what it gives you:
? A step-by-step framework to rewire your self-doubt
? Action-based exercises that make confidence a habit
? A 30-day challenge that pushes you (gently) out of your comfort zone
? The support and accountability you need to make it stick
The best part? It’s built for real life. No cheesy motivational fluff - just practical tools you can use immediately.
?? Ready to Build Unshakable Confidence?
Imagine yourself 30 days from now…
?? Walking into a room and owning it
?? Speaking up in meetings without second-guessing
?? Taking action on your goals without fear holding you back
That version of you is waiting. But confidence isn’t going to magically appear- it’s time to train for it.
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?? What’s Your Biggest Confidence Struggle?
Let’s keep this conversation going! Drop a comment below and tell me:
?? What’s one situation where you wish you had more confidence?
?? What’s stopped you from building confidence in the past?
I’ll personally reply to as many as I can. Let’s grow together! ??