Compliment!

You can make someone give you something by sticking a weapon on his back

You can make a child do something with a whip or a threat

But

One word that makes all the difference and makes anyone do anything is the

"Feeling of being accepted, Feeling of being wanted, Feeling of being important"

Sigmund Freud calls "The Desire to be great"

John Dewey calls "The Desire to be important"

Abraham Lincoln once mentioned "Everybody likes a compliment" in one of his letters.

William James said "The Deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated"

Alfred Lunt one of the greatest actors of his time " There is nothing I need so much as nourishment for my self-esteem."

The choice to compliment or to complicate lies in our values.