Compatibility Is a MUST

You can tell a lot about compatibility from a first conversation. For one thing, do you find the conversation flows naturally, or are you having to force it?

Is there a natural rhythm, or are there awkward silences where the conversation dies?

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.

For reasons you may not be able to articulate, you feel a strong sense of ease. Something in their vibe, demeanour, and attitude allows you to take a breath and present the best version of yourself.

Feeling relaxed in your first conversation means a natural flow exists between you and your date. This is a good marker for future romantic success.

The one thing worse than uncomfortable silence is when the person you’re talking to is just rambling on about boring subjects that you have no interest in or opinion on. Like really, dude, we need to talk about your Cross Fit routine for 45 minutes uninterrupted? Nightmare.

If you find everything they talk about to be only normally interesting or flat-out boring, then keep it moving. However if, “rather than topical chitchat or meaningless banter, they’re talking about things that excite you,” you may have a winner on your hands.

Very few things in life are as fun as when you really connect with someone about the things you are excited about. In those situations, the conversation tends to naturally take on a life of its own, and you may even find yourself so swept in up in the moment you don’t notice how much time has passed.

That, folks, is what compatibility looks like. When you share the same passions, it’s a clear indicator that you’re a good match.

Proximity matters. One thing you should find out in that first conversation is roughly where they live. If you live in a big city, what neighbourhood are they hailing from?

You should know before things move forward exactly how much travel is required if you are going to make a go of it with him.

There is nothing worse than meeting up with someone that seems promising only to find out that they live on the other side of city. Even if the two of you are compatible, commuting from the West to North is essentially a long distance relationship, which will make having fruitful encounters hard early on in the relationship!

While this isn’t make or break, being able to see each other regularly is definitely a factor in compatibility.

A good sense of humour is seriously make or break for me. Not only does a potential boy need to make me laugh, but they have to get my jokes, too. I love to make people laugh, and if someone I am dating just stares blankly at my goofy side, well then, boy bye.

if someone isn’t able to get your humour and dish it right back, then they are not exhibiting the fact that they’re an equal match for your wit and cynicism.

Humour is a big deal; not only is it part of the initial attraction phase of a relationship, but it’s also what helps to get you through he hard times. Don’t go through life without someone who doesn’t make you giggle.

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Thank you …“How was your weekend?” sounds like a pretty basic question to ask, but don’t overlook its importance in gauging compatibility. Knowing how someone likes to spend their free time is a great way to know what a shared life with them looks like.

If your weekend was going to a film festival and then curling up with a good book, and theirs was a full marathon followed by a Spartan race, then you’re probably not super compatible.

So the next time your match messages you with this question, rather than roll your eyes, try answering as thoroughly as you can.  

It’s not just about having that good vibe with someone; it's about having a personality the feels “just right.” Beyond liking their personality, they should be someone you think is “agreeable.

What that means varies from person to person, but you'll know the feeling when it happens. Liking your initial interaction and finding an agreeable personality makes ongoing dating an easy fit. Don’t make dating any harder than it already is!

As you can see, there’s a ton you can learn from a single conversation with someone, and knowing how to spot these signs (and the red flags) will save you a ton of wasted energy on dating folks who weren’t the right fit from the very beginning.

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All experiences are different depending on where you live. In big cities, you might take the subway to a museum for fun, while in small towns, you might participate in a hike or spend time in nature.

While dating can be different, the most important thing is that you let your personality shine through. If you do that, and the date doesn't work out, then it's absolutely their loss, regardless of location. And no matter where you live, you will find someone or something amazing for you!

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Spelling?

Really?

Yes, stay with me here. It’s pretty common for the first time you speak to someone to be over some kind of text message.

There is one distinct advantage to this, in that you get to literally see how they communicate.

Don’t underestimate the power of grammar and spelling, especially if you are online dating.

You can tell a lot about a person based on their spelling and grammar!. For example, if you’re someone who feels strongly about the proper use of your/you’re and they respond with “ur,” well, that might be a red flag that you are not on the same communication wavelength.

The answers to these questions really vary person-by-person. But, the real rule of thumb is that if you're not vibing with their spelling, then it's probably a no-go!.

It is the things in common that make relationships enjoyable, but it is the little differences that make them interesting.

The strategy that many people use to determine who their life partner should be is feeling. This neglects the fact that so many of our “feelings” are informed by things that do not translate to thriving relationships, such as social expectations, insecurities, or crude attraction.

Feeling strongly about someone does not necessarily mean that you are meant to be together.

Many people have at one point been convinced by their feelings that they have met their perfect match, but ultimately discover that they aren’t compatible with them.

Consider, at the very least, modern divorce rates.

Love and compatibility are not the same thing.