Compatibility: How Does It Work?

Do you know your personality type and who you’re most compatible with?

It’s natural to wonder if some types of personalities are more compatible with yours, or if other factors have more relevance when trying to find a match.

This is a question that I may not have an exact answer to just yet.

Your personality is a distinctive combination of thoughts, emotions, and experiences that make you who you are. It’s unique and complex and may not fit into a rigid mold of traits. It can also change and adapt to circumstances.

For decades, experts have tried to classify the possible different types of personalities in an attempt to better understand why everyone is so different and yet so similar in some aspects.

So you’ve finally met someone you're compatible with in many different ways. For instance, you’re both big on family, you like taking things slow, and you both share the same love for obscure horror films.

And yet for some reason, something about the relationship just doesn’t feel complete. If this situation resonates with you, experts say you may be?staying with someone for the wrong.

The effects of actual and perceived similarity on attraction also changed, depending on the stage of the relationship. Actual points of similarity made a potential partner more attractive before a first meeting but had less of an impact on attraction as relationships developed.

The mere perception of being similar to a partner (again, even if that was wrong) affected attraction throughout the development of the relationship, though.

Overall then, to be more attractive, a partner just had to be?perceived?as similar — even in instances where that similarity was not actually supported by facts.

It's hard to distinguish between?like, love, and lust. First of all, they all start with the letter L and that is very?confusing.

But really, it's hard to figure out when you've moved from?one stage of your relationship?to the next. When you meet someone, lock eyes with them from across the room, that's usually lust, right?

Relationship compatibility?is important for long-term relationship success. But you shouldn’t be with someone just because they’re a great match on paper.

Knowing the difference between being in a compatible relationship and a loving one can prevent you from staying in a relationship that isn't built on trust on actual feelings.

You're probably aware of what that looks like. When you're compatible with someone, you enjoy each other’s company, you like the similar hobbies, and most importantly, you have similar views what you want in the future.

Love, on the other hand, is a deeper emotion that you feel for another person, to nurture them, and to do everything you can to protect them.

Loving someone gives you goosebumps and 'butterflies' in your stomach. It makes your heart skip a beat and you want to be with that person all the time. It also has an emotional and sexual nature unlike compatibility, which doesn’t always.

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Thank you?….?Basically,?being in a compatible relationship?means that you work well together and enjoy each other’s company. You're in-sync but tend to act more like friends or friends with benefits, than two?people who are actually in love.

You can have compatibility without love. But you can't have love without compatibility.

For partners to be attractive, it is important that they are “perceived” as similar by their date or mate.

As people get to know each other, if those perceptions are confirmed with information, then all is well.

If people instead find dissimilarities, they tend to focus on them — which sours a relationship.

Therefore, partners who stay attractive in the long run are those who are perceived as similar (and have some real connections), yet are also a bit ambiguous, to support that (sometimes false) perception of similarity, especially in areas where they do not really match up.

? I've had trouble identifying what category my attractions to people fall under and I'm trying to figure out the differences between having a crush, interest, and liking someone. I see it like this, in order from mildest to strongest:

Interest -?Being curious if there could be romantic compatibility and you may want to go on a date, but you're not pressed whether it works out or not. Could be someone you meet once while you're out somewhere and get their number.

Crush -?Still being curious about romantic compatibility, but less intense then serious feelings. The person's on your mind, you like the idea of their personality and what they might be like but don't know the deeper layers of their personality or if you'd be compatible or not. You'd be "crushed" if they rejected you, but it's still not a big deal.

Liking Someone/Romantic Feelings/Romantic Attraction?- Knowing the person on a deeper level after being around them for a prolonged period of time, and developing romantic feelings towards them based on who they really are. Wanting to be in a relationship with them. You'd be heartbroken if they rejected you.

Do you want to add a word or two?

If you're looking for long-term relationship success, finding someone you're compatible with is key. Initially, that might mean bonding over a shared love for an obscure band, favorite restaurant, or cheesy 90s sitcom.

But ultimately, you'll want to take a look at the bigger stuff — like your values, goals for the future, etc. — to?determine if a relationship will work.

This is exactly what professional matchmakers do when pairing people up.

?Matchmakers consider what their clients have in common, but also keep an eye out for certain sets of incompatible qualities between partners, that usually mean a relationship won't work out.

Your Comments……

Relationship compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together.

Relationships thrive when two people share companionship and activities. However, a couple doesn’t have to have every interest in common.

People often make the mistake of assuming there is only one person or “soul mate” out there for them, and they believe that that person will complement them in every way.

The problem is they may use this idea to reject potential partners who don’t fit the image of the person they think they should be with.

Even when you find the ideal choice for you, that person will not share all of your interests or meet all of your needs.?

It is also important to have friendships, a broader base of support and companionship, so you can fulfill all aspects of yourself.

Issues are bound to arise in any relationship; no one is perfect. However there are many potential partners you may be compatible with and with whom you could develop your ability to be a loving person.

Why is relationship compatibility important?

People are simply not happy when they’re with someone they’re not compatible with.?

Unfortunately, we don’t always pick partners for the right reasons. We might be drawn to someone for unconscious reasons based on adaptations from our childhood.

The?psychological defense's ?we formed in our early lives were adaptive to the interpersonal environment we grew up in, however they may limit us in our adult relationships.

We tend to choose partners who treat us like we were treated in our family, so our adaptations fit.?

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