Compassion vs. Empathy
David Langiulli
10+ years Coaching 100s of Executives at Harvard, UNICEF, Yale, USO, Princeton, & More | Jiu-Jitsu World Champion Black Belt | 7x Published Author
We've all heard of empathy- the ability to understand and share the feelings of another as characterized by the inimitable words of Bill Clinton in his phrase: "I feel your pain."
But what about compassion??Compassion is often mistaken for empathy, but they are somewhat different.?Empathy is feeling with the other, while compassion is feeling for the other.?In other words, empathy is sharing in the suffering of another, while compassion is characterized by feelings of warmth, concern, and care for the other while also wanting to help alleviate their pain.
So why is compassion so important??Compassion is one of the most potent emotions humans can feel, and it can break down barriers, build bridges, and create intimate connections with others.?When we feel compassion for others, we are motivated to help them in any way we can.?We see them as fellow human beings who deserve our love and support- not as objects or obstacles in our way.?
Compassion also has many benefits for our well-being.?Studies show that people who practice compassion are happier, healthier, and live longer than those who don't.?Compassionate people also have lower anxiety and stress levels and are better able to cope with difficult situations.?
So how can we cultivate more compassion in our lives??
1.?Listen with your whole self.?When someone you care about confides in you about something difficult, refrain from trying to fix the problem or offer advice.?Sometimes, people just want to be heard.?So instead of trying to jump in and fix things, listen with your whole self.?Give them your undivided attention and let them know you're there for them—no strings attached.?
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2.?Acknowledge their feelings.?It's essential to validate the emotions of the person you're showing compassion.?Let them know it's okay to feel however they're feeling—even if those feelings are negative.?This acknowledgment can help them feel seen and understood, which can be a huge relief when they're going through a tough time.?
3.?Put yourself in someone else's shoes.?One of the best ways to show compassion is to try and see things from another person's perspective.?If you can understand where they're coming from, offering them support will be much easier.
Compassion is one of the most important emotions we can feel, and it breaks down barriers, builds bridges, and creates connections between us and others.??
So how can we cultivate more compassion in our lives??By practicing active listening (especially using our intuition), acknowledging someone else's suffering, putting ourselves in their shoes, and intending to help relieve their pain.?
And, if you are going through a rough time right now, professionally or personally, feel free to contact me.?I would love to help you.
Judicial programs administrator at Administrative office of Pennsylvania courts
2 年Right on Jewels! I think it is imperative that we as individuals and as a society learn to practice and show both compassion and empathy. Empathy is absolutely necessary to connect with another who is suffering or has been marginalized in some way. Compassion is one part of empathy and compassion is certainly different and more involved than sympathy. Have you ever sent an "empathy" card or a "compassion" card. No! You send sympathy cards to make aware to the suffering individual you are aware of their pain. Sympathy cards do not connect you with the individual suffering. We have to be courageous and recognize there will be short term pain in connecting with another's perspective who is suffering. The potential for long term gain is a connection that no one can put on a price tag. Thanks again Dave!
I teach others what it is like to be you. I teach you how to Appreciate yourself for what you are ....How you fit into your world...your relationship with others....How to connect with them.
2 年I couldn't agree with you more David Langiulli thank you !
Stop walking on eggshells! Feel more seen, heard, and respected without sounding like a jerk. I help people-pleasers find their voice and reclaim their power. ? Confidence Coaching ? Emotional CPR ? Family Dynamics
2 年This is so interesting. I've been calling Emotional CPR a type of empathy training. But I'm realizing it's more compassion training. Great post, as usual, David Langiulli
David Langiulli, such a valuable post. From my perspective, compassion is the first thing that we should have in our hearts whether we're an entrepreneur or regular people. Compassion is more than sharing a feeling with someone it's more about taking action with what you feel. Thank you for sharing.
Customer Success Manager at Experian Data Quality UK&I
2 年Interesting, thanks for sharing! Love the animation!